Lessons in resilience: earning your stripes

The term ‘resilience’ has developed a mixed reputation of late in UK education, and understandably so.

It can be manipulated as a concept to translate as ‘put up and shut up’, don’t smile ‘til Christmas, ‘if you think you’re tired NOW’ or ‘of course you needed to stay up until 3 a.m working on that marking pile’.

None of these is reasonable and to put up with any of them is more than likely to mean a career in teaching rather shorter than one might have imagined.

To be clear on what I mean by the term, it’s about ensuring the challenges we face daily, hourly, in teaching feed directly into our personal and professional growth.

It’s about taking a deep breath and taking constructive criticism as a way of moving forward; about depersonalising the professional. It’s about choosing your battles – knowing when red lines have been crossed, what to do about it, and when to zip up your bubble, keep your head down and get on with the task in hand.

In any job, there are elements we each relish less than others.

But, like it or not, data is here to stay; accountability systems are, and should be, here to ensure our young people get the best possible detail. We deserve to be supported, but we are also paid to do a job which is arguably the most important one there is, for we are creating the doctors, artists, lawyers and teachers of the future.

It is in this spirit that I offer my six top tips for developing what we’ll call the zebra stripes of wisdom and experience rather than the rhino skin of hard indifference.

Dr Emma Kell – Teacher, Doctor of Education and author of How to Survive in Teaching, shares her top tips for developing resilience.

1 – This too will pass

This is a mantra taken directly from the world of parenting, and it is both poignant and reassuring.

That unit of study which just isn’t working with Year 9 will be over soon. If it’s making you and them sad, ditch it. Young people are remarkably forgiving.

Invariably, that child who has given you grief will be the first to be there with a gushing leaving card when you finally move on from the school; the one whose references you’ll be writing in ten years’ time will still deny the time they called you a bad word in the classroom after the umpteenth request to remove their gum.

2 - Laugh or cry

From a car-crash of a lesson to dismal feedback from an observation, first bear in mind that anyone who says they haven’t been there is probably telling you porkies.

Give yourself time to lick your wounds then, with some distance, try to find the funny side.

The lesson when all the home-drawn, laminated cards lovingly crafted through the night ended up scattered on the floor with a learning value of nil, wasn’t much fun at the time, but taught me an important lesson in never spending longer preparing something than it is going to take to deliver.

3 - It’s all about perspective

In our climate of high-stakes accountability, it can feel as if we ourselves are taking our GCSEs 60 times over, year after year, with the future success and happiness of a generation of young people entirely in our hands.

But the reality is that we’ll get onto our train or into our car at the end of the day and go back to our warm home with enough to eat and loved ones. We are the adults here.

We’ve done our qualifications. We’ve got our basic comforts. We are, in the words of the marvellous Bill Rogers, ‘always the winners, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time’.

4 - Good enough

Another mantra taken from parenthood; 'Beware of the ‘O’ word'.

Outstanding is something we naturally aspire to. I too have sobbed tears of rage and injustice at being graded ‘just’ good AGAIN!

But our students don’t need a singing and dancing magician every lesson.

Solidly good over time is better than sporadic bells and whistles.

5 - When is it time for a change?

I didn’t know what my educational values were until I worked in a climate in which they were challenged day after day, hour after hour.

First it made me stressed. Then it made me deeply unhappy. Then it made me ill. Know yourself and know your red lines.

If you’ve been waking up for more than three weeks in a row feeling sick at the prospect of going to work, it may be that your moral compass is all out of whack.

Taking the decision to find a new school to work at is a huge and difficult one, but it’s worth remembering that there are hundreds of thousands of young people who could potentially benefit from your skills

6 - You are not alone

And finally, remember this: the biggest mantra of them all; 'You are not alone.'

You are NEVER alone, in the triumphs or the failures. Reach out. Know your safe people and safe spaces. Talk. Cry. Laugh. Grow. And remember, the profession is lucky to have you.

If you’re a teacher in need of support, call Education Support Partnership’s free and confidential 24/7 emotional support helpline on 08000 562 561.

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