Impotential

Talking frankly to men and their partners, psychologist Dr Petra Boynton explores the reality of erectile dysfunction.

Most men will experience erection problems at some stage in their life but few will seek help because of shame and embarrassment. In this documentary, men speak openly to psychologist Dr Petra Boynton about their erection difficulties and how it's affected them and their relationships.

"You don't feel like a man. You can really kick yourself in the teeth. You can feel suicidal. You can feel the dark depressions of the ends of the earth. It's a terrible thing for a bloke."

Some men interviewed in the programme have erection problems because of surgery. Knowing the cause helped them find the right treatment but it didn't make erectile dysfunction any easier to accept. We speak to them, with their partners, about how they've come to terms with the changes and how, in some cases, managed to maintain a physical and intimate relationship.

For most men, the origin of erectile dysfunction is psychological with performance anxiety the main cause. A lack of sex education and an unrealistic expectation can add to the pressure men feel. We hear from one man who believes pornography and childhood trauma affected his ability to perform and another who used drink as a cover for his erection problems.

Erectile dysfunction can be an indicator of other health problems like heart disease or diabetes so it is important to seek help if the problem is long lasting.

But men still find it hard to talk.

In this frank and honest half-hour documentary, men do talk and share what erectile dysfunction is like, perhaps encouraging other men to do the same.

Producer: Henrietta Harrison
A Loftus production for BBC Radio 4.

Available now

28 minutes

Last on

Mon 30 Oct 2017 11:00

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One You: Information about sexual health from Public Health England

If you would like to talk to someone about a sexual health issue, you can call the national sexual health helpline. Your call will be treated with sensitivity and in strict confidence.

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Phone: 0800 22 44 88

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Sex Worth Talking About is a website that provides straightforward information and advice to make it easier to discuss everything to do with contraception and sexual health, including Teen talk, a section specially designed for young people.

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FPA gives straightforward information, advice and support on sexual health, sex and relationships to everyone in the UK.

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Samaritans is available 24 hours a day for anyone struggling to cope and provide a safe place to talk where calls are completely confidential.

Phone: 116 123

Email: jo@samaritans.org

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CALM, the campaign against living miserably aims to prevent male suicide in the UK and offers anonymous, confidential listening, information and signposting.

Phone: 0800 58 58 58 (daily 5pm-midnight)

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The National Association for People Abused in Childhood offers support, advice and guidance to adult survivors of any form of childhood abuse.

Phone: 0808 801 0331

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Survivors UK provides information, support and counselling for men who have been raped or sexually abused.

A webchat is available: A counselling fee may apply.

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Men's Advice Line offers confidential advice for men experiencing domestic violence from a partner or ex-partner.

Phone: 0808 801 0327 (weekdays 9am-5pm)

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Macmillan Cancer Support provides medical, practical, emotional and financial support to cancer patients, their carers friends and family.

Phone: 0808 808 0000

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Information about how your sexuality and sex life may be affected by cancer treatment:

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The British Heart Foundation provides care, support and a range of information for everyone living with heart disease.

Phone:  0300 330 3311.

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Information about sex and heart conditions:

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