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Sex in long-term relationships

Couples therapist and writer Esther Perel joins Jenni to offer insights and advice to Woman's Hour listeners who have shared their stories about sex in long-term relationships.

Psychotherapist Esther Perel wrote her first book Mating in Captivity ten years ago. Her second book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity has just been published. She joins Jenni to hear from Woman's Hour listeners about the challenges they face keeping the sexual spark alive in a long-term relationship and to give advice based on 20 years experience of talking to couples .

Mismatched libidos, pain during intercourse, getting into a routine and what happens to desire when kids come along are some of the issues raised. Is it unrealistic to expect passion in a marriage? Why does the sex seem to go off even in the most loving relationships and does it really matter?

Presenter: Jenni Murray
Producer: Erin Riley
Reporter: Abigail Hollick.

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Presenter Jenni Murray
Interviewed Guest Esther Perel
Reporter Abigail Hollick
Producer Erin Riley


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