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My Partner Abused My Child

If your partner abuses your child, how do you cope? Victoria Derbyshire talks to two mothers about their own traumatic experiences and the impact on their lives.

My partner sexually abused my child. Two mothers tell how their lives were torn apart when they discovered their child had been sexually abused by their partner. Victoria Derbyshire finds out how they coped with the trauma of the disclosure and the lasting impact on their lives.

Whilst the 'telling' can be a huge relief for the child, for the mum it is the beginning of a long challenging road dealing with social workers, the police and often the court system. So how helpful are these professionals at a time of great emotional vulnerability for the mother and child? What can be done to support them through the difficult process of collecting reliable evidence and what could practitioners and policy makers do to improve the whole system?

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My partner sexually abused my child

If your partner abuses your child, how do you cope? Victoria Derbyshire talks to mothers about their own traumatic experiences and the impact on their lives. We discuss the difficulties in collecting evidence and securing prosecutions in child sex abuse cases. Also a look at the treatment available to help the non-abusing mother. How important is this to enable her to help her child, now and in the future?


Other Organisations:


NSPCC PANTS campaign 



MOSAC is a voluntary organisation supporting all non-abusing parents and carers whose children have been sexually abused. They provide advocacy, advice and information, befriending, counselling, play therapy and support groups following alleged child sexual abuse. Visit their website or call their national helpline on 0800 980 1958. 


Child Exploitation and Online Protection (CEOP) Centre
The CEOP Centre is the UK's national police agency set up to tackle child sexual abuse. If you are worried about someone's behaviour towards a child, online or offline, you can report this at You can get help, advice and support on all issues related to internet safety for young people by visiting


0800 1111
Get help and advice about a wide range of issues, talk to a counsellor online. You can also send ChildLine an email or post on the message boards.


NSPCC Helpline
NSPCC Child Protection Helpline - 0808 800 5000
The NSPCC is the UK’s leading charity dedicated to stopping child abuse. You can call their child protection helpline or contact them via email at


Multi-Agency Public Protection Arrangements (MAPPA) support the assessment and management of the most serious sexual and violent offenders.


The Lucy Faithfull Foundation
The Lucy Faithfull Foundation (LFF) is the only UK-wide child protection charity committed solely to reducing the risk of children being sexually abused. LFF’s staff work with all those affected by abuse including adult male and female sexual abusers; young people with inappropriate sexual behaviours; victims of abuse and other family members.


The Home Office Disclosure Scheme
Keeping children safe: your right to ask for a police check
If you are worried about someone in your child’s life, you can get them checked by the police to see if they have a record of child sexual offences. Find out what you need to do to get someone checked.


NAPAC is the National Association for People Abused in Childhood. It is a registered charity providing support and information for people abused in childhood. 


Parents Against Child Sexual Exploitation (Pace)
Parents Against Child Sexual Exploitation (Pace) works alongside parents and carers whose children are or are at risk of being sexually exploited by perpetrators external to the family. They also offer guidance and training to professionals on how child sexual exploitation affects the whole family. They were formerly known as CROP. 


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Role Contributor
Presenter Victoria Derbyshire
Interviewed Guest Denise Hubble
Interviewed Guest Valerie Sinason
Interviewed Guest Janet Foulds
Producer Karen Dalziel


  • Mon 5 Aug 2013 10:00

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