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This is why we should all spend more time kissing

Kissing is good for us, so why aren't we doing it more?

A simple kiss can kick off a chemical reaction which makes us feel good and it can strengthen the bond with our partner. But, according to a relationship therapist, we’re not doing it enough.

Why kissing is good for you

Lorraine McGinlay reveals the benefits of kissing.

The more we kiss the better we feel, according to relationship expert Lorraine McGinlay. Speaking on Mornings she suggested that kissing is one of the most important areas of a relationship.

"It shows passion, intimacy, desire, and how much you adore a person," she says.

"It boosts your happy hormones — dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin — and helps us feel connected. It helps you bond with the other person."

But despite these benefits, Lorraine believes we don’t put enough effort into kissing.

"People get busy, they take each other for granted and don’t take the time. It’s a quick peck in the morning or a quick peck when we come in from work, then we’re busy putting the kids to bed or going to the gym."

Take 10-20 seconds

Lorraine advises that we slow down and prioritise time to connect with our partners.

"People get into long term relationships, the passion tailors off a bit, life can get in the way. Kissing your partner can help keep the connection you had when you first got together.

"Take a bit of time out; 10 or 20 seconds out of your day to have a kiss," she suggests.

And if you're a little out of practice, Lorraine has some expert advice for sharing the best kiss.

"Asking is a good thing to do. I know that can sound awkward or unromantic, but for some people that’s a real sign of respect and will make them want to kiss you even more. Use your hands; reinforce the kiss with subtle gestures.

But she saves perhaps the most important piece of advice til last:

"Keep your lips soft. Nobody likes cracked dry lips."

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