Love in the Countryside

Eight rural dwellers from across the UK enlist the help of farmer's daughter Sara Cox in their quest for love

Richard

I am quite picky. The man (for me) has to be outgoing, fun, like a drink and a party. The big thing for me is trust in a relationship.Richard
Date: 20.04.2018     Last updated: 20.04.2018 at 12.42
AGE: 40
OCCUPATION: Sheep & Cattle Farmer
LOCATION: Dumfries & Galloway

Do you feel this is one of the boldest things you have ever done?

For me, one of the biggest things was coming out. I had that going on for a long time and I did date women to hide it. I didn’t come out until I was 32 and I am now 40. You are always frightened when you come out especially in the rural community. But I have been so fortunate because everyone has embraced it and they have been so supportive. I don’t know if I would have done this programme if they hadn’t.

How long have you been single for?

I have been single for four years but I have got hardly any spare time (to meet anyone!) I work on the farm and I also do a lot of other things in the community like actingas a member on a panel for vulnerable children plus I own an outside bar business.

Is it hard to meet anyone because you work on the farm?

The hours on the farm are long but also, I live two and a half hours away from Edinburgh and Glasgow (where the nearest gay scene is). Believe it or not, it’s actually easier to get the ferry to Belfast! You do have to be so organised though and even though I’ve got friends living in Belfast, I’ve not been able to make the trip this year.

Do you for looks or personality?

Both, I am quite picky. The man does have to be outgoing, fun, like a drink and a party.

What kind of boyfriend do you make?

I think I am fun, I like holidays, I like going out for meals and I am quite open. The big thing for me is trust in a relationship.

Have you been on a blind date before?

I have never been on a blind date. This is new. I was hesitant at the start but now I am getting into it, I am excited. I know I will be nervous when I meet the guys but once you have spoken to someone, it will be easier when you bring them back to your setting.

HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO YOU THAT THEY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR JOB INVOLVES?

They do need to get my life and I need to get theirs. It takes two to make a relationship and it is give and take on both sides. I know farming is completely different and it is not like finishing at 5pm on a Friday and then having the weekend off. There are times in a year where you can’t leave the farm. You can’t just go on holiday. In March and April, it is constant. I don’t get away.

WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY THINK?

Some of my friends and family are surprised as I normally keep my personal life very quiet. I don’t normally let them meet a person until I’ve been seeing them for a long time. They are all looking forward to watching me on TV. I will watch myself and cringe!

How excited would you feel to meet someone on this show?

The chances are probably slim but when you meet the person, you could be very surprised, it is exciting. I do hope I get on with the person and there is a spark.

And finally, how important is it to you to show how difficult life can be working on a farm?

It is going to be an adventure. In agriculture, there are so many different parts to it - dairy, beef, and sheep - and what I do is different to other people. A lot of people in agriculture do have another income and they work in bars because it is the way farming is going. People have diversified. I like meeting people and dealing with a lot of people. Being on the farm seven days a week, 365 days - now that’s hard isolation. I don’t know how some do it but I couldn’t.