You can show you are a good listener by the way you respond during a conversation. The trick is to know what to say, how to say it – and when to say it.
The following is all quite natural, of course - but a check list of how to be a good listener would include:
If you are asked to analyse a conversation, refer to the people speaking as 'interlocutors' and know that each time someone speaks, they are taking a 'turn'.
Read this conversation between Abdul, Emily and Matt. Can you find any examples of good listening skills?
Abdul: In a fight, right, who do you think would win...
Emily: (Interrupts) Shut up, Abdul! I'm trying to read my book...
Abdul: Batman or Spider-man?
Emily: That's just stupid, grow up!
Abdul: It's not!
Emily: It is!
Matt: I reckon Spider-man.
Abdul: No way, man! Spider-man's a loser!
Emily: You're a loser!
Matt: No. I reckon Spider-man...
Matt: So why d'you reckon Batman?
Abdul: Batman would use gadgets and outsmart Spider-man.
Matt: So, you're saying that gadgets are better than superpowers?
Abdul: Depends on the superpower, but Batman would beat Spider-man.
Matt: Because he'd stop him using his superpowers?
Abdul: Yeah, Batman would stop Spider-man shooting webs somehow.
Matt: We's better be quiet. We're annoying her.
Emily: Shut up!
Choose the statement that is most true:
The correct answer is 3. Matt asks lots of questions to make sure he's clear what Abdul means. He's also sensitive towards Emily's feelings.