Preparing your child emotionally

This film was recorded before the Covid-19 pandemic.

Parents share their concerns before their child starts secondary school, including forming new friendships, new routines, and being overprotective. The film offers tips that can help you and your child prepare emotionally for these changes.


  • Get your child to make a list of things they like about themselves, making sure they identify the attributes behind those qualities

  • Don’t let your worries become their worries

  • Don’t let them feel unsafe because you are constantly talking about safety

  • Prepare them for all of the new and fun opportunities that they’ll have by talking to them about clubs and activities and encourage them to explore what's available

  • Increase the independence that you give them over the summer holidays or even their last months at primary school so that the jump to secondary feels natural

  • Let them know that should they need you, you are there for them and will help them no matter what

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