What I’ve learnt from going it alone

Both Abi and Jax have lived in hostels and homeless shelters – and it’s been tough.

“It’s hard to stay positive when you’re living in a negative environment,” says Jax.

Both of them are finally living in accommodation of their own now. They’ve come out the other side, shown that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and have some real words of wisdom to share about their journeys.

Whether you’ve been homeless yourself or not, theirs is life experience to really listen to.

Words of wisdom

Abi and Jax share some wise words in their film. Get them printed on a poster and stuck on your wall – they’re well worth listening to!

Boredom is a breeding ground for bad decisions.

Listen to an audiobook, podcast or some music, read a book, take up a hobby, learn a new skill, keep a journal – just keep yourself busy.

Remember - you’re working towards something better.

Set yourself goals and targets to work towards. These can help to remind you that your situation is only temporary and your future holds something better.

Practical tips

  • Use apps for your bills so you can top-up at your own leisure.

  • Get a smart meter to help you to keep track of your bills.

  • Don’t be ashamed of your truth – you may be entitled to extra benefits or support. You don’t know if you don’t ask.

  • You need to be your own parent and learn to look after yourself. Cooking, cleaning, washing, paying bills – knowing how to ‘adult’ will help you to feel more independent.

  • Surround yourself by people who believe in you – a support network is really important.

As Abi says:

It’s ok to not have it together all the time.

Especially when you’re starting out for the first time. So be kind to yourself, don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come, and don’t give up hope. You’ve got this.

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