When life gets in the way

Some people like to plan every small detail, while others are happy to just go with the flow.

But whether you’re a natural-born project manager or as chilled as can be, we all like to feel we have some kind of plan – it’s only human. But sometimes life can throw you a curve ball at the worst possible time, like when you’re about to start uni or in the middle of your exams. Our inspiring coaches went through some tough stuff, so we’ve asked them to tell us how they got through it.

In this short film, our young coaches explain how they coped with the unexpected.

If you’re going through something you weren’t expecting:

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Family, friends and teachers will be keen to support you and will do the best they can. Find someone who can make things easier and help you through this difficult time.
  • Remember change is inevitable in life. Learning to cope with it is one of the most precious skills we can develop
  • The internet can also be a place of inspiration, but be careful of the source of your information. There’s a lot of advice out there – from articles by qualified psychologists, to inspirational quotes to print out and hang in your bedroom
  • There are also some great supportive forums where you can meet like-minded people, but be wary of any which seem odd, demanding or negative. Always remember: meeting in person with people you only know online can be dangerous – even more so when you’re vulnerable. If you decide to meet an online friend, make sure your parents and friends know where you’re going, and only agree to meet up in a busy public place
  • A life crisis is an upsetting, unsettling experience, but there can be a silver lining. You’ll become more resilient and grow confident in the knowledge that you survived, and you will also be able to understand others who face similar challenges and help them to cope with the unexpected crisis.

If you need support

You should always tell someone about the things you’re worried about. You can tell a friend, parent, guardian, teacher or another trusted adult. If you're struggling with your mental health, going to your GP can be a good place to start to find help. Your GP can let you know what support is available to you, suggest different types of treatment and offer regular check-ups to see how you’re doing.

If you're in need of in-the-moment support you can contact Shout 85258. It's a free, 24/7 text messenger support service for anyone in the UK. Text the word “SHOUT” to 85258 to start a conversation.

There are more links to helpful organisations on BBC Action Line.

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