Hannah Witton: How to survive love under lockdown
This article was last updated on 30 April 2020.
Life can be hard when you're loved up and in lockdown, but don't worry, we've got you!
YouTuber and author Hannah Witton is here to give you the lowdown on how to survive love under lockdown.
The first question we need to tackle is: if you are a teenager and you live with your family or carers, but not your boyfriend or girlfriend, can you still go and see them or visit them, even if it’s just going for a walk or talking through a window?
Unfortunately, the answer to this is no. It's really, really tough. Lockdown* means that aside from your daily exercise and essential shopping trips, you have to stay at home, and if you live in a different house to your boyfriend or girlfriend you will now essentially find yourself in a lockdown long-distance relationship.
Luckily Hannah has given us some top tips on how we can make life just a little bit easier in these strange times, and it turns out that communication is key in a long-distance relationship. "What will really help here is actually having a conversation about how you prefer to communicate," says Hannah.
Hannah's tips for surviving love under lockdown
1. Find out what works for you.
"In order to survive a long-distance relationship in lockdown you’re going to have to work on your communication skills."
We live in a world where there are SO many different ways to keep in touch. Thank goodness we don't just have one landline house phone anymore (ask your parents!). You might love sending voice notes, or prefer to video chat, perhaps you are more traditional and like to make a phone call or to send a text? Whatever it is, agree with your partner what works best for you both and make time to communicate with each other.
2. Don't worry, be happy.
"This doesn’t mean telling them they must reply to your texts more often, but more letting them know how it makes you feel when they don’t reply."
But don't worry if your loved one isn't replying as often as you would like. Have a conversation about why this might be. There might be a good reason why they aren't replying. Maybe they are doing some schoolwork or just want a bit of downtime? Have a chat about it and figure out when is the best time for you to regularly keep in touch.
3. Get creative!
"Video calls are a great way to feel close to someone when you’re apart."
Video calls may help you feel closer when you are in a long-distance relationship. Why not try cooking together on a video call, watch movies at the same time or even secretly plan with another member of their household a little treasure hunt that they could do. Get creative and have fun with each other!
4. Try something different.
"There’s lots of different forms of communication that can work long distance, so figure out what works for you."
If the more usual forms of communication aren't your thing, then maybe you could dust off your controller and play video games online with your other half. You can have some real fun with online gaming, especially if you use a headset to talk to each other!
5. All you need is love.
"Sending each other funny and loving little voice notes, little videos, gifs or memes, or photos is great."
But most of all you need to cheer each other up when feeling low or lonely; just because you can't be together doesn't mean you can't send a little pick me up over the internet. It might be a cute meme you know both laugh at like or a favourite photograph of you together in happier times, this will help if you’re feeling a bit lonely. Remember this will be difficult for you both, but together you will get through this.
- These were the regulations around lockdown as of 29 April 2020.