Moving in with the parents: a survivor’s guide

Moving back home after you’ve been living independently for a while can feel like a massive step backwards. You’ve got used to living by your own rules, answering to no one but yourself, and then all of a sudden you’re back under your parents’ roof feeling like a kid again.

It’s a challenging time for everyone involved: you will have changed a lot since you left home and, believe it or not, so will your parents. You’ve both got to get used to the new status quo.

To help you navigate the bumpy road back to domestic bliss, we asked James how he survived moving back in with his parents.

Have you found some personal space? Good. Then let’s recap James’ top tips:

Be prepared to clash

  • A few teething problems are inevitable. You created a set of rules for yourself when you were living alone, and they’ll probably be different from those that your parents want to live by. You’ll need to learn to compromise.

  • You’ll have less personal space too, which could be frustrating and lead to conflict. If you’re feeling caged up, be proactive and get yourself out of the house. Do something fun that you enjoy and let off some steam.

Have a plan

  • Everyone’s default question will be about your future plans – so make sure you have some. It will help to keep the haters quiet, but also give you something to work towards.

Get your hands dirty

  • If you want your parents to treat you like an adult, show them that you can act like one. Help around the house, do the shopping, even contribute towards the bills, if you’re able. After all, you’re not living in a hotel, so don’t treat it that way.

Moving back home is probably only temporary, so remember to appreciate the good things rather than fixate on the struggles. As James wisely says:

Not having to cook your own meals? That’s kinda nice.

We couldn’t have put it better ourselves.

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