Most sexual practices, whether between people
of the opposite or the same sex, usually involve
touching, excitement and affection. Some people
believe there is no question of having a sexual
relationship outside a loving partnership.
Listen to one person's experience.
Others may have no regular partner and still enjoy
active sexual relationships. Sex and love are
not exactly the same. However, for many people
love and sex go together.
Listen to one person's
Deciding to have a sexual relationship can be
a big decision and it is important to understand
the consequences of your choice. But don't forget
you can say 'no', and whether you say 'yes' or
'no', think about the possible consequences as
well as the pleasure of the moment.
None of us can tell exactly how we will enjoy
our experiences, or where they will take us. This
is also true when it comes to partners, sex and
A good way to begin to be active is to explore
your own body. This can increase your confidence
about understanding how your own body looks, feels
and responds. Masturbation is an extension of
this kind of exploration. Masturbation means playing
with your genitals, massaging and rubbing them.
It is a form of sexual expression and it can release
sexual tension. In some cultures it is taught
that masturbation will damage you, but there is
no medical proof for this. So, despite what some
people may tell you, no harm can happen to you
by doing it.
The starting point is yourself and giving yourself
permission to explore and enjoy your own sexual
feelings. Expressing your desires can help.
may want to do something your partner has never
may want sex less or more often than your partner
may want to have a baby
may not want to have a baby
may not know as much as your partner about safer
may know more than your partner about safer
may have more or less experience than your partner
may like to act out fantasies with your partner
may not want to have sex
issues can be addressed by communicating with
your partner about your mutual needs and wants.
There is no right or wrong way to have sex. There
are many ways to show your feelings for each other.
And your body will let you know what you like.
Listen to one person's experience.
Your sexual desires may include mutual masturbation,
oral sex (which is caressing your partner's genitals
with your lips and tongue), being vigorous or
gentle with each other, having penetrative sex
(vaginal or anal) or having sex without penetration.
What you can do with each other is as endless
as your own imagination, but remember to protect
This is probably the most practised sexual activity
between heterosexual couples. This form of penetrative
sex, known as 'sexual intercourse', where the
also exists to provide the principle way of becoming
pregnant. Once the penis is inside the vagina,
one or both partners move their pelvis, so that
the penis goes backwards and forwards with changes
of rhythm. This can last anything from a couple
of minutes to over an hour. It usually ends with
a climax of sexual excitement called orgasm.
Sexual intercourse can be difficult, especially
if it is your first time or you are nervous. Kissing,
stroking and cuddling, also known as 'foreplay',
arouse both the male and the female. Most men
can have an erection and be aroused quite quickly.
Foreplay usually helps women to be aroused so
that their vaginas are relaxed to allow the penis
to enter easily and without pain. When a woman
is sexually excited her body will produce a natural
lubrication to assist penetration. There are many
different ways to have penetrative sex which you
can explore, so be prepared for a journey with
lots of excursions into unknown areas. In this
way, you will find what suits you best.
Sexual relationships between men and women are
called heterosexual or 'straight' relationships.
Sexual relationships between partners of the same
sex are called homosexual or 'gay' relationships.
Some people know that they are gay from a very
early age and are perfectly comfortable in that
knowledge. Some may not know, and others hide
their feelings because they are scared or ashamed
of feeling different. Life can be very difficult
for a gay person because of the prejudices many
people have about homosexuality. In some countries
homosexuality is still illegal. Gay people are
just like everyone else in that they have the
type of sex that best suits them. Your sexual
preferences may change during your lifetime. Some
people are sexually active with men and women.
This is known as bisexuality.
for more information on love and relationships.
has links to other sites on homosexuality. Youth
Resource runs a site for young bisexual people.
Sex is about arousal, and this may include orgasm
which creates highly pleasurable sensations for
men and women. Reaching an orgasm with a partner
can take practice and good communication. You
have not 'failed' if you or your partner has not
had an orgasm. When the penis
and the clitoris are sufficiently stimulated,
orgasm will occur. An orgasm consists of a
series of muscular contractions in the sex organs.
These are felt as a throbbing or pulsating sensation,
which spreads through the whole body, causing
a feeling of intense pleasure followed by one
of relaxation. At the moment of the man's peak
will come out of his penis. Most women can reach
orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris alone.
Very few can reach it without the clitoris being
aroused. Women also have orgasms through vaginal
stimulation. One partner may reach orgasm before
the other and orgasm may not occur every time
you have sex. The brain plays as much a part in
our sexual lives as our bodies. This explains
how our thoughts and feelings, fantasies and desires
contribute to our sexual excitement.
In order for an egg to become fertilised, it has
to come into contact with the man's sperm.
At the moment of the man's ejaculation, the sperm
travels from the testicles
into the penis and then spurts from the penis,
up into the top of the woman's vagina.
The sperm travels towards the womb
usually meeting the egg in the fallopian
tubes. If a sperm then joins with the egg,
the woman becomes pregnant. The egg settles down
in the womb and starts to grow and approximately
9 months later a baby is born. For more information
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Early signs of pregnancy include: missed menstruation,
breast enlargement and tenderness, nausea and
vomiting, a metallic taste in the mouth, fatigue
and dizziness. Pregnancy can be confirmed by a
simple test which should be available from medical
professionals. Confidentiality and privacy are
yours by right - you can request these from a
health professional whenever you want them.