Love Is In The Air
I have often wondered what women talk about when they get together. Now I know – other people’s love affairs. Can that be a more interesting subject than cars and football?
One of our Chinese readers wrote a long and interesting comment about love, on Monday 15 January. Both she and you ask me some big questions. She asked me what I think about showing feelings and emotions, and you asked me what I think about married couples who have affairs. This blog is becoming an agony column! And I think I am one of the least-qualified people to answer your questions. Firstly, I am a man. Secondly, I am a (relatively) old man. Thirdly, there are people who read this blog who know me, so I have to be careful what I say!!!
Personally, I don’t think I have any problem showing my feelings. When Arsenal (a London football club) win a match I jump and shout and kiss everyone in sight (whether they like it or not). When they lose, I cry all night. See? No problem with emotions.
As for love affairs, well, I think I had better remain silent on that intriguing subject.
It’s not even Valentine’s Day!
I’m teasing you a little, and that’s not really fair is it? OK, I’ll try to be serious for a moment. The other day I read a questionnaire about expressing one’s emotions, in a newspaper. One question was, ‘What makes you cry?’ Would you like a little list?
1) My own happiness, sometimes
2) The joy of just being alive
3) Certain pieces of western classical music (by, for example,
Beethoven, Elgar, Puccini, Sibelius, Tchaikovsky, Peter Warlock), especially when played live
4) Certain pieces of popular music from the 1960s
5) Profound evil
6) Sadness for others in tragic circumstances
7) Thinking about my late wife, sometimes
Another question was, ‘What makes you laugh?’, and although I think I laugh quite a lot I found it much more difficult to write a list of things that make me laugh. I think that’s because it’s not things but people who make me laugh.
There were other questions, too, about when, for example, you would try to hide your feelings, and how you try to hide your feelings. (One way, for me, is to say nothing rather than say something upsetting.)
As for ‘true love’, I am not sure I really understand it. Isn’t all love true love? Or are there lots of different kinds of love? I’m not even sure I understand what it means to ‘open your heart’ to someone. I don’t think I could stop my heart opening, by itself, if I was with the ‘right’ person. But I don’t believe there is only ever one ‘right’ person.
Oh, dear, Soyoung, I am completely out of my depth here. I should stick to safer subjects – like pork wrapped in lettuce with sesame seeds. It sounds good, but just a little too spicy for my taste. Here, it is time for dinner and, as usual, I have to cook. I’m going to be lazy tonight and just make pasta with a tomato and olive sauce.
Have a good day at the office.
SOME USEFUL WORDS AND EXPRESSIONS
page or article in a newspaper or magazine where readers ask for, and get, personal advice
embarrassing or making fun of someone for one’s own amusement
reasonable, right, just
out of my depth
If you are out of your depth you are trying to deal with something that is too difficult or too advanced for you.
stay with, not move to something else
Here are some re-written (and corrected) versions of some sentences from your blog. Read them carefully and identify the differences.
I went to a butcher’s to buy it, in Manchester, but he didn’t know what Sam Gyup Sal was.
We then moved to a café for coffee. I prefer it to tea.
We talked a little about married couples’ affairs and real love after marriage.
The main subject of prime time Korean TV is love affairs.
A friend of mine, who wants to be a script writer, said that TV stations only want stories about love and betrayal.
But audience ratings are lower than for programmes about love affairs.
I think we have to take responsibility for the family after marriage.
However, one of us said that she could accept falling in love with another man after marriage so long as it was true love.
All parts of sentences have to ‘agree’. Look again at your original versions of these re-writes and focus on where the different parts of each sentence agree
…I couldn’t upload many beautiful photos…
They soak pork in red wine for a week or even a month before roasting it.
When it’s fully-cooked I start eating it.
No one is married in my circle of friends and we chatted about other people’s affairs which we have heard about on the grapevine.
The main subject of prime time Korean TV is love affairs, and housewives like to watch those shows after dinner.
A few TV dramas are about hospitals, lawyers and university students.
But if I realised that someone loved me from deep in his heart, I think I would love in return.
A quick note to 'Rita' from Germany
Yes, Rita, even if it is irritating, I’m afraid it is not only correct to write ‘…it is 25 years since I was there…’, but it is probably more commonly used than the present perfect (which is, of course, perfectly correct, too). Thanks for the question.
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