Tonight I would like to tell you about some of our social traditions that might not be as strange as those I mentioned before. But still, I suppose most of you would probably like to hear about them.
There are too many social traditions here in Mauritania and sometimes they slightly differ from one district to another.
As you know, writing about a single social habit accurately would need a lot of knowledge and analysis, if somebody wants to thoroughly study the ritual and probe its roots. Therefore, tonight, I just want to pick some of our traditions that relate to weddings. I really expect them to interest you as an outsiders of this Saharan society.
First, instead of being proud of herself, her success and sharing with everybody her plan for the party, the bride here has to huddle somewhere and avoid meeting her parents' visitors, cover her face and stop talking days before the wedding. The explanation the society presents for these behaviours is to make the bride show some shyness and decency.
Acting normally while people discussing her coming up marriage is totally unacceptable.
Second, on the wedding day, the bride also must dress in black.
Our national dress for women ,by the way, is Mulaffah " a long piece of cloths that the woman wears by rolling it on her body in a certain way that reveals her face, hands and feet". It looks a lot like the sari that the Indian women wear.
So, I don't think you would find it as strange as Boobo which I told you about earlier.
Mulaffah also is not for us exclusively. Two more African countries Sudan and Somalia wear the Mullaffa too.It seems to be designed perfectly to cover all the obesity women used to have.
Some people in the east think Black is a sign of sadness and should be put on only for mourning and poignant events.Therefore, they find the color contradict the joyful mood people at the wedding should be at.
The bride also must pretend that she is crying on the wedding day to prove herself unhappy. Showing happiness about her marriage would be shameful and a sign of obscene according to our norms which still consider sex a taboo.
One more very strange tradition which is more common now in rural areas, is that the bride close female friends would try their best to kidnap her at any time during the wedding party which usually goes on for seven consecutive nights. When they succeed, they would hide her away from the groom friends. Sometimes even take her outside the neighborhood and make sure to limit the number of people who know her whereabouts.
Socially, the bride must conspire with them and abide by the plot instructions, otherwise she would be considered a bad girl.
Then the groom and his friends would have to embark on searching the whole area, house-by-house, looking for her until they find her.
And even then, the mission is yet to be over, they would have to fight the bride female friends until they free her completely and bring her back to the groom. Sometimes she manages to stay for several days in her hideout.
In some areas, failing to get her would mean that the groom has failed to live up to his responsibilities and consequently lose his bride.
Lastly, we have an interesting tradition that relates to the end of marriage rather than its beginning.
In the case of divorce, the man is obliged socially and religiously, to send a significant amount of money along with the divorce letter to the woman's family. No matter how angry the husband is about the divorce and even if the woman was the one who asked for it or her misconduct was beyond it, all of that doesn't change anything.
The man still has to pay at both the start and the finish of marriage.
That is all for now and I am curious to know as how you would react to those Mauritanian traditions.
Now it is the time for my homework.
Here is a try,
1-This horrible crime suicide has become an almost "normal" act in the "civilized" world
2-you can drive your car and do many different activities.
Would finish fit better here?
3-Today's discussion aims to argue that during human progress, we only gain a benefit by losing another.
Thank you again and again Nuala.
Await for my new mistakes.
I never expect to need four corrections in one sentence.But i am more hapy with my mistakes. Without which, i wouldn't learn more.
Thank you all for you reading and for your comments I will replay soon.
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