your comments
David from San Diego
In all honesty, most people cannot handle the responsibility of use vs. abuse.
Thu May 29 09:05:24 2008
Alan
I love my boyfriend, but his drug taking is getting in the way, I can't move out as I've recently gone bankrupt. It's sad to see an otherwise lovely guy ruining his life and thinking it's fun. I joined him in his taking for a while, but was able to stop when I realised how sad it was to be doing it.
Thu Dec 27 08:29:31 2007
Jessica
Wow, I had no idea there were this many people going through what I'm going through. Me and my boyfriend have only been together for 4 months but we talked for 8 months before we started going out. I love him so much. I don't do drugs I can't stand them. I've seen what they do to people. He smokes weed and does pills and drinks occasionally... and the worst part is he lies to me about it. He's already been in trouble for drugs and almost went to jail. I care about him so much it's all I can do to worry about him all the time. He keeps telling me he's going to change, but he hasn't. I'm so confused and hurt. I know I can't change him. I guess I just thought that maybe being with me would make him want to quit. He's turned me into something I'm not. All I do is cry, and I used to be the happiest person ever. And the other night he talked me into getting high with him...I didn't want to but I did it to make him happy. I don't want to turn into that person, but I want to be with him.
Wed Dec 19 08:59:34 2007
Ana, Australia
Wow I really like your poem. I totally understand where you are coming from. My ex- boyfriend and I were together for almost 3 years. I dumped him because he was cheating and also smoked weed occasionally with his mates. Now he has a new girl, has a child coming up in March and so on. But out of the blue he calls me up and asks me for his help. He's having a hard time with his new girl because of his weed smoking. I have been there to try and guide him. He only smokes weed and does no other drugs. I do care for him because we had a past together. Although I care for him and try and help him find a job and a place, his weed intake is increasing all the time he is with me. I have got to the point where I have had enough. I told him he needs to cut down 'cause I'm not going to be around for long for him to lean on. I know this sounds cruel but in some way, distancing yourself away from him will help him to realise what a good thing you are.
Wed Dec 5 10:46:29 2007
Chrys from Cali
I've been dating my b/f on and off for six years, he gets addicted to anything and I still find it surprising when he'll mention yet another drug he has tried. He quit for eight months last year and things were better, but he was vulnerable and smothered me with controlling behaviour, and used religion to make me feel guilty over nothing, even though I have a strong belief in God. I'm kinda codependent I guess, because I always end up falling back in love with him because we were each other's firsts and everyone I know gets so bent out of shape about leaving their first loves that I feel I can't, I even feel jealous that if I had a new b/f that he would have already loved someone else and I would then be his 2nd love, always second to his first. Sorry for the rambling on. B/fs who do drugs are sometimes not worth it, and sometimes they are...
Tue Oct 30 09:36:16 2007
David from Wrexham
Please know this. The people who supply you with drugs are not your friends in fact they are your enemies because a friend would not give you the certainty of death and a horrible one at that. They in fact hate you. I was once addicted to alcohol so I have been there but with one prayer I was set free. You will need faith, and courage to say no and please above all get rid of those morons that say they are your friends and smile at you whilst they kill you. If you are addicted know that people do care and that you are not a waste of space and there is a light at the end of the tunnel if you will just walk through it.
Mon Jul 9 09:45:42 2007
Natalie from WA
It's a really good poem. My bf has been doing drugs since he was 13 years old. When I fell in love with him he was 2 and a half years clean. Then he started up again three months later. It's a disease. Some people can try something once and stop, but some who have an addictive personality can't stop. I have been with him for a lil over a year and a half now. We had good times, we had bad times. He was shooting meth, he's been off it for 3 and a half months now, now it's crack and etc.. he is trying to quit everything all together because it's been a long journey. We stay together through thick and thin, it's not easy. He might be a drug addict but we all have our problems and maybe that one is his. If you love someone and you both believe it will get better then go with your heart not what anyone else tells you.
Tue Jul 3 09:57:51 2007
Hopeless
I've had a relationship with a REALLY great guy for about a year now. He lies about his drugs all the time. It hurts so much. I love him more than anything in the world but when he lies to me about it it hurts. I've asked him to quit so many times and he doesn't. Anyone who puts someone they "love" or "wanna be with for the rest of their life" in this kinda situation can just save it! You should do whatever feels right but I don't think I can take it much longer.
Tue Jul 3 09:55:50 2007
Agie
My boyfriend and I just broke up. We were together for three years and lived together for two. He was addicted to smoking and I finally gave him a choice...he did not choose me. Reading your poem made me almost happy to know there are others out there like me. Thank you for your writing.
Fri Jun 22 07:33:07 2007
Martha, Texas
Well I've tried other drugs - I've stopped on all except the weed. I just can't stop, cause when I do weed it makes me forget about the problems I have. Sometimes I stop for a while but drugs are every where and I just can't help it. I know I need big help because I'm only 15 years old, but sometimes I don't care about anything. I also got used to stealing in stores or grabbing money from my own parents just to get what I want. Something is happening to me. I just don't want my dad and mom to be sad. I'VE TRIED SO HARD BUT FOR ME IT'S REALLY HARD TO TURN AWAY AND SAY NO. BUT ANYWAYS I LOVE MY FAMILY WITH ALL MY HEART.
Tue Jun 19 08:42:17 2007
Katie from Cudahy, CA
Well after reading all these comments I realise I'm not the only one suffering from this. I've been with my bf for 3yrs and since I've met him he's been smoking crack and I've done it with him in the begining but I quit and I've asked him to quit he says he is but we just broke up last night cuz I caught him high, all u guys have 2 do is dump those druggies!
Tue May 29 11:08:25 2007
Amanda, from Florida
My boyfriend puts himself in the hospital once a month from addiction, and I love him so it's hard to leave him, it's an awesome poem that you wrote, I love it.I don't think you should listen to your friends because you will regret breaking up with him if you really love him.Just talk to him, and if he doesn't make a change then you should move on, even know it's the hardest thing to do. There are wiser and better people in the world.
Tue May 22 09:23:56 2007
Pamela from Illinois
I honestly can't tell you how many of my friends do this, and have gone through this. There's really nothing you can do unfortunately with your boy. If you've asked him to stop, and he won't, then that's his loss! Weed is illegal where I live, but that doesn't stop people from doing it. It may screw people up in the head, but truly it is just a plant. Just be happy he's not on the verge on killing himself or addicted to other WORSE drugs such as meth, heroin, or crack. My ex was totally against all those drugs while we were dating as when we broke up he started experimenting with crack. It hurts. If he loves you as much as he says he does, he could cut back or quit for you. Good luck!
Mon May 14 09:06:38 2007
Dan from Ohio
I do not understand this because cannabis has been medically proven to be less harmful than 2 very common drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. Not only that but there are no medical uses for cigarettes or alcohol while cannabis has been used as a medicine for centuries and more uses are still coming. I think that some people need to grow up and stop bashing things they know nothing about. Have you ever thought that he has lost interest in you because all you do is rag on him about what he does? If I was your boyfriend and found poems of how you don't like things about me online I would most certainly dump you.
Fri May 11 07:56:13 2007
Leah from Indiana
Omg, this is the best poem! My eyes are wide after reading it! It describes my boyfriend and my relationship perfectly! He always tells me that he's done with weed, and he doesn't smoke it anymore, because I asked him not to. But, I know that he still does, and he thinks I'm stupid, and that I don't know what he does, but I do, and he just doesn't know how much it hurts me, when he forgets about me, to go and smoke that crap. What hurts even more, is that he looks me sraight into the eye, and SWEARS to me that he doesn't, and he gets mad at me when I don't believe him. I am so scared that he is going to cheat on me, or get in to harder drugs, like cocaine. But, no matter how hard he makes me cry, I still love him more and more!
Tue May 8 10:18:23 2007
Chelsey (O.R)
I have a crush on someone who is addicted to weed. He is so addicted that he has to chew on the stems in school so he won't go crazy. He doesn't just do it...he sells it and so he gets it for free. He doesn't really like living like this but once you're in you can't get out...and that's the same for you, once you get serious it's hard to get out. My sister's friend had a boyfriend that did weed 'only weed' but now he is on hard drugs and every times she tries to get out he threatens her and then tells the cops she's the crazy one....now she's addicted. Get out while you can hunn.
Fri May 4 10:48:44 2007
Daisy
When I saw this I cried because this is happening to me. My boyfriend who I have been with for over 3 years smokes all the time. I know I come second and I always will. It's breaking my heart to see him change. We're thinking about moving in together, I should be so happy as it's what I have always wanted... but I don't know if I can live with his 'addiction' and I say addiction because it is, he can't live without it. I'm always made to feel like the bad person when I say anything about it to him, and I shouldn't. I have to make a choice whether to move in with him, and let this ruin me, or walk away. I wish I didn't love him so much, I wanted and I still want to spend the rest of my life with him - just not with drugs.
Mon Apr 23 08:40:29 2007
Andy, Cardiff
I smoke weed every day and well it don't give me a buzz now it just messed my head up. I would like to stop but I can't. I'm on the verge of prison because of alcohol and drugs. If I was you I'd say to your boyfriend 'we are finished'.
Thu Apr 19 08:09:19 2007
Carly
This poem rings so true for me, if you've never been in this position you seriously don't want to be. It's breaking my heart for my boyfriend to chose weed over me every night. He can't see me unless he's had a "smoke". It sucks.
Mon Apr 16 09:33:58 2007
Aida
This makes alota sense. Although I have never been through this kind of confusion before I'm totally thinking that I will some day cuz my bf is changing in a way except mines going to the good side.
Wed Feb 14 14:56:34 2007
Casey
I'm feeling the same way about my bf and I really can't leave him. I love him so much. He's just turned 18 and I'm almost 16. I say think about how u really feel about him, my bf really does try quiting a lot, sometimes I just think he hangs with the wrong people. I only just got off the phone to him from arguing, I told him I'm sick of the way he's treating me. I really don't know what will happen but I feel 4 u, good luck.
Fri Jan 19 13:09:03 2007
Ms Shorttie
I totally get wat you're sayin cause I've been there but my boyfriend was doing meths and crack/cocaine.
Thu Jan 18 08:38:14 2007
Jade from St Austell
Omg that is a well good poem. Say no to him, don't let him do it just tell him it's me or the drugs but if I was you I would tell him to get a life. Don't let him rap you around his little finger because you might get caught up into drugs too.
Wed Jan 17 12:56:02 2007
Dannie **from tha big NZ**
My boyfriend never got how much using that rubbish can harm us gurlz...so my story starts. My bofriend was wasted last new year's eve driving home from a party there was a guy coming from one way, and my boyfriend was coming from the other way, I understand that, my boyfriend was speeding and going too fast for the corner, I understand that, he slipped over the centre line, and crashed into the other car, I understand that but it was the other guy that died, and my boyfriend came oot of the crash without a scratch or a bruise, that's just something that I'll never understand. I told him that night that he shouldn't be driving but when he's stoned he doesn't listen. I don't go out with him any more because he doesn't even care that he killd another human and I don't know if I can trust him any more. So make the right decision! My comment to you is get rid of him he won't even notice you're not there any more. Drugs have taken over now gurl...
Tue Jan 2 10:09:52 2007
Grace
Why do ppl let other ppl treat them like this?
Thu Dec 28 12:02:02 2006
Netser from Thunder Bay
My Best Friend since childhood now takes drugs... I used to take it with her, but I got sick of it. Now I never see her and yet she's my roommate. What does that mean? I don't know, she says she cares, but never around. Now I'm moving to another place where I can talk to people but that means she has to go back home. It hurts to know shes going back home b/c she was my best friend.
Wed Nov 15 08:26:04 2006
Colin from Mississippi
The first time I smoked weed I was lyk 10 i think. I started doing it as an addiction when I was 12 I'm 14 now. I love the feeling but I have let many down, I have lost my dad's trust, and also lost many good friends. I started bc I thought that the feeling I was feeling wasn't enough. I was so depressed, just try to understand bc he could always paint a picture on the outside...
If anyone has a question or needs advice, I have answers I know some times I should follow my own advice but, well it's hard...
Love a girl who's been though a lot...
Mon Nov 13 08:40:18 2006
Joe Bonger
it's ok. but please, tell your guy to use Cannabis responsibly instead of smoking before class. That's just lame. Peace
Tue Nov 7 10:07:52 2006
T Hall, Newcastle upon Tyne
I think that if you want to take drugs than get yourself away but you're hurting the people you love.
Mon Oct 30 16:57:25 2006
Chantelle, Adelaide
I had a boyfriend who I really loved and he never lied to me, well not that I knew. When I found out by his friends that he was taking ice it hurt heaps and when I asked him he 'fessed up and said yes I have tried it but I told him I didn't want to be with a drug user.
Mon Oct 30 09:33:20 2006
Sami from Fontana, California, USA
This is very interesting. Half of the stuff I'm not sure about. But my best friend is in jail for having drugs on school campus. And they're only 13 or 14!!!
Thu Oct 19 07:55:03 2006
H from Exeter
I've been doing drugs for a few years now, i started smoking when i was 9 and i still am now im 17, i find it hard to concentrate and learn and i find that i dont care, although i know i should
Thu Oct 12 16:30:49 2006
Tiffany
I was just starting high school as a freshmen and I dated a guy that lied to me and told me that he had never done drugs. I was so excited to have an older boyfriend and I felt lucky until I heard that he did drugs. I was so upset and even though he did those awful things I still stayed with him for 5 months. When my parents found out that he did drugs they threatened him and everything. Finally, we broke up and I am so happy that we did because I wouldn't be the person I am now.
Wed Oct 11 07:53:39 2006
((bObii_nEw zEaLaNd))
umm i dont fnk u need 2 worri couz if he wnts uz 2 work owt then he'll give up 4 u, if not thn he dont kare or hez got a problem or he needz sumfng 2 help hym owt ((he myt b deprresd)) bt datz jst wat i fnk...
Tue Sep 19 08:10:16 2006
Alyssa from California
I'm going through the same thing right now. My boyfriend and I would have been together for 2 years, next month. He was amazing, there was just something about him...so intelligent, unique, creative, and caring. He put me before everything. Well, he started smoking weed this summer. I found out through mutual friends, not him. We almost broke up, he said he'd quit. A week later I found out he was doing it again, so I ended it. We couldn't be apart, we got back together. Things were really, really good for a while. But he slowly started pushing me out of his life. I told him I needed more time from him, that it was working out. I cried, he asked me, "do you expect me to cry? I'm past the point of being upset about it". A waste of 2 years, everything thrown out of the window. Our memories, my virginity, my love. Just to be erased from his mind. It was only a week ago, and still no word from him. Who knows if he'll ever call again. Part of me wants him to call, beg for me back. And part of me is so scared that he won't. I know it's not right, that after all of this he isn't the same person. He's not the same person I fell in love with. How can you choose drugs over someone who loves you so much? The effect of a drug is temporary feeling. Love can last forever if you want it to. Can't you see?
Mon Sep 11 16:57:21 2006
Claudia Cortes
I love my best friend, he is a wonderful guy, but unfortunately last month he got married to a girl that he only knew for one month, so he is already married now, but I loved him even before he met this lady. Now he tells me that he loves me more than he loves his wife and that he regrets what he's done. I love him too, but our love is not possible anymore. I had to let him go, but it hurts so much...what to do?
Mon Sep 4 09:28:05 2006
tyler
I've been doing drugs since grade 7 and now finally after three overdoses, i've finally learnt to stop and live my life. However, it's impossible to go back to the normal life, there's drugs here, there's drugs there. It will never end once you start. beware
Wed Aug 30 08:24:20 2006
Tori, NZ
Yeah, it's happening here too...but the thing is I like him better when he is stoned, because he is so irritable when he is not...I just wish that he could go a week without it when I am not around...then we could get on with life!
Wed Aug 23 12:56:44 2006
Libra from Zimbabwe
My bf smoked weed when I met him but I tried to ignore it because I liked him a lot. But after a week or two I realised I can't just ignore it so I ended it. He then said he would quit for me. Then his mate came over and he was smoking it so my bf joined in (in front of me). I said I couldn't be with hin he seemed sincere - he swore on my life he wouldn't touch it again cos he loved me. But then I caught him round the back of the house with a joint in his hand...bottom line..they need to want to quit and if they don't there's a good chance they'll just do it when you're not around...hating drugs is how I've been brought up and there's plently of guys out there who don't use and are better suited for me. I was upset at first but just realised it was no way for me to live. Good luck to everyone in this situation.
Thu Aug 3 10:13:58 2006
Dr Bownes
3 kids at 17? I think you've got bigger problems to sort out first....
Thu Jul 27 07:45:24 2006
nicole
my bf is 17 goin on 18. we have a 1 year old and a 2 year old. we just had another baby this May. he's 2months. my bf is alright. we had our problems but never like this. he smokes so much and he's always coming up dirty. i worry 24/7 about him cause he could get locked up. i used to think he was smoking crack. now that i've read this i know he has just started smoking more. i hate him for it because now he is all angry and beats on me in front of our babies like it's my fault he all strung out he's always late and when his high and the kids are crying he hit's on our oldest one who is two. why he gotta hurt us when he the one who's the addict. sometimes when i think of him sitting in jail i laugh cause in there he can't get high and beat or bully us no more and also i know where he is
Tue Jul 25 08:02:48 2006
Jaz - England
I feel that my boyfriend is getting more and more horrible towards to me, but the thing is he can't see it, he will say sumthing horrible to me n il get upset and he will shout and ask what he has done and think I'm pathetic, he called me a bloke and a fu*** s**g yesterday in front of his mates. I can't take much more it seems every day im crying, but I love him and he cant seem to see what he is doing, he does say sorry about an hour later after hes thought about what hes done but at the time theres no getting through to him. He's been smoking cannabis for about 5 years and im scared because i can see him changing and hes become dependant on it and gets really angry when he hasnt got it. Maybe i am over sensitive but the things he says hurts me and rips my heart apart, wherenver I tell him I feel he can't understand can't see where I'm coming from and just gets angry if I cry or say I'm pathetic it makes me feel it's my fault. I love him so much and it hurts me when he does these things how can I get him to stop smoking and change?
Thu Jul 13 12:52:20 2006
Diana from ACT
Babe I hear you. My boyfriend started out like this, I actually dealt with it and thought that it was acceptable, what else was there to do? But now he's on every drug under the sun, and my heart is in pieces. It hurts sooo much to lose someone you love so much to this stuff. I've been coping for years now, and it just seems to be getting worse. But my love n support will always be there, even when I'm not with him when he's shootin up.
Wed Jul 5 15:45:35 2006
heather from ontario
i think this poem is great it has a lot of emotion and thought but more truth than anything. i think that by the time anyone is married they will have an encounter like this one. drugs are just over taking peoples lives. just imagine if all the people who take drugs would just stop and concentrated on life and how to make life better. our civilization would rapidly become smarter. Just imagine it.
Fri Jun 23 07:57:14 2006
Rebzz , Almere
This poem really makes me cry caz my boyfriend is just the same. Sometimes i think... Why? Why me ?... and there is never an answer to that. I wish every girl or boy in this situation good luck.
Tue Jun 20 15:55:53 2006
kelly from luton
I had a boyfriend that done every drug you could think of i asked him to stop it and he would say yeah i will i will but he never did and i have had it with him now its over sorry i did love you but not when you are on those drugs
Mon Jun 19 15:19:06 2006
HOPE FROM MS
girls just have faith in those whom do drugs. my brother done drugs but i made him realize that drugs isn't the only way to get high and have fun. faith does work my brother is off of drugs and doing very well.
Mon Jun 12 09:08:22 2006
Alessandra, Mexico
This poem really means a lot to me, not because of my boyfriend but because of my Dad. My mom talked to me about him, first he didn't take drugs seriously, he said he could leave them. After a while he obviously couldn't and he cheated my mom with his secretary. Right now he's got no life, there are days he doesn't even eat because he's got no money to. He was a bright, intelligent and successful man, who had goals to achieve, and just because drugs everything fell down. What he does not understand is that he is hurting me and my brother more than himself. I appreciate the poem, sometimes it is good to know that there's people around the world who can understand your problems pretty well.
Mon Jun 12 08:28:39 2006
Confused, Yorkshire
I had a boyfriend who changed so dramatically when he started smoking weed. It got to the point where he was always cheating on me, hitting me etc. Eventually I got rid of him and it was the best decision I ever made. Then I met my recent boyfriend who also started smoking weed. He's cheated on me and begged for another chance claiming he'd quit etc. I've found out he's been lying and doing it behind my back. I love him so much n cant just walk away but I don't want it to be like this anymore. I'm scared I'm going to keep getting hurt.
Wed May 17 14:45:03 2006
Farrah from U.S.
Had a boyfriend like that...at 30 he smokes weed every day, ever since he was a teenager, and I tried to be cool about it but could see his behaviour would change dramatically-if he didn't have his fix he would be very irritable and instigate fights with me. He always had problems holding jobs and blame others or society, and he would always rationalize his way of doing things. His defence would be: "you've never smoked before, how could you criticise?" Furthermore, he continually borrowed money from me since he would spend all his on weed. It broke my heart-I loved him very much and trusted him when he promised to cut down. Even his friends, too nervous to confront him, were glad I stood up to him and agreed he smoked too much.
I think if you have good self-control and don't let it interfere with your life, it's okay to smoke occasionally. But as you have witnessed, when a 'hobby' negatively impacts yourself and other people, it's time to let go of the addict. Don't blame yourself, you tried your best. Best wishes, and good luck.
Mon May 8 11:01:08 2006
Drea, from Detroit
I'm going through the same thing right now with my boyfriend except he dont do the drinking or the smoking of cigarettes, he just does the weed.... I hate it with the passion and I've gotten him to cut back but he falls back to doing it daily... I've been with him for 2 years... and seeing him do it hurts more than anything cause he can do so much better than that. Me and him want to spend our lives together and have a family but I dont want them subject to it, he says he'll quit when the time for that comes but I dont know if he'll pick it right back up...
Fri May 5 08:06:26 2006
Lewis from Bangor
who are you to condemn something you've never even tried...there's nothing wrong with drugs as long as you take care of yourself and know wat you're doing...if ya dont like it, dump your boyfriend...thats if he hasnt already dumped you after that poem.
Mon May 1 19:45:15 2006
private friend from england
i hope ya not worrying over him. there are plenty of fish in da sea and u'll get someone in no time. i need help to ma best friend started smoking dope 3 weeks ago and shes pure different know. i'm not too sure whether i should tell her family or not. anyone know wot you would do if you can help me post ya messages. luvs all xxx
Mon May 1 19:44:44 2006
hu knows
mi bf smokes weed n he used to tel me e loved me after it n nw if he smokes it he tells me its his body n he cn do wat e want n stuff i neva make him choose btween me or weed.
Mon Apr 24 08:55:25 2006
nikki, flint
I know exactly how u lot feel, i went out with this boy, n he used 2 smoke dope at first he wud be happy n hyper but then he wud hit me on the arm or sumthing - the only thing is he doesent realise hes doing it.
Mon Apr 24 08:53:06 2006
Alyse From Canada
I feel the same way as you! my boyfriend does a lot of drugs all the time and lots of different kinds too. It's really sad but I loved him and I didn't know what to do but finally I came to realize that he's just another loser. You can find so many of them so why am I with him? I dumped him and it really hurt him but I feel better about myself knowing that im not dating a walking marijuana plant. I love your poem.
Tue Apr 18 09:43:47 2006
sarah frm blackburn
I have neva touched drugs in my life and from wt I hear i will neva do tht. I dnt want to kill myself. Where i live loads of kids my age and younger r killin themselves by takin these drugs. It aint right but it's their life. It 1st starts off with a person just blowin into your face!
But yet people tell me tht drugs calms them dwn, relaxes them and helps them get through life when they're havin a hard life when their parents are bein horrible to them.
Mon Mar 6 11:36:22 2006
Aaron 4rm CoMpToN
Hes not a bad person he just made a bad decision and try and communicate with him and let him know how you feel and give him the facts of marijuana. im an ex meth user and my drug that started me off was MJ.
Sun Feb 26 07:37:57 2006
Danielle from London
my bf smokes so do i the key is nt to let it take over you. I go to college every day do well in my exams, and the same applies for my boyfriend.we smoke in moderation. i say dont be hard on him/ dont push him just guide him and let him know u care. Always remember u cant change someone who dosnt want 2 change.
Sun Feb 19 14:43:43 2006
Gina from California
I keep finding boyfriends like this. The problem is that I am okay with it at first and then get stuck with my poor consequences later. Usually I don't force them to quit and they like to follow my model behavior and decide to quit on their own. But after a few months they are back to the drugs. I refuse to date another druggie!
Tue Feb 7 08:57:37 2006
This debate is now closed
I really love my boyfriend, at school he's in my class,
