What is it?
This is a sexual technique where someone touches another's genitals or anus using their fingers. One or more fingers may be pushed inside the girl's vagina, simulating sex. It is also known as mutual masturbation.
Why bother?
Done correctly, it may feel good. Doing it correctly means both people want to. And taking the time to check it feels nice. Over enthusiastic rubbing and prodding is never a good move.
Plus you can't get pregnant from a finger. Or lose your virginity (though a girl's hymen may break)
So what's the catch?
There are four:
- It's still illegal before we're 16. And forcing fingers into someone can be considered rape, however old we are.
- Dirty, long fingernails can scratch and chaff.
- STIs may spread if fingers go from one set of genitals straight to the next.
- One thing often leads to another…
How to do it?
Make sure you want to. Never be nagged into it. Respect yourself first and always.
Then go slowly, with clean hands and always check it's feeling good for both of you.
Written by Dr Melissa Sayer
Last updated 17th June 2007
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Josephine , 17
i let my boyfriend finger me for the first time the other week. He was really sweet - i could tell he was nervous becuase it was the first time for us both. He kept asking if i was okay and if it hurt. Never do somthing like that unless you are happy with it and dont be afraid to give them tips and suggestions to how you like it done, and ask him how he likes it too - it will make it better for the both of you! xox
Ashley, 18
I recently let my boyfriend finger me. I wasn't quite sure if I was really ready for it... but he asked, and I agreed anyways. I still feel a little guilty about it, even though it felt great. :/ Just wait until you're 100% sure that you are ready!
amber, 16
when i let my boyfriend do it to me i wasn't sure at all. it wasn't that i was scared it just didn't feel right. before i let him go any further i shoved his hand away and told him to stop. he called me frigid and broke up with me. it was a bad expereance but i didn't do anything i didn't want to do and im happier now without him pushing me into something DONT BE PUSHED INTO SOMETHING YOU DONT WANT TO DO!
gina , 16, 16, 16
i agree with all these comments but fingering isnt as bad as it sounds..it can be a good way of macking yourself cumfterble with your boyfriend and prepering for the real thing but it is never to late to say no once hes in there ..but becarfull about your age make sure your 16 becuz it can be temptintg ..
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