Release your demons
When you can't get your ex out of your head it's all too easy to remain possessed by past passions. The only way to lay old ghosts to rest is to exorcise your ex! Before you can move on, you need to let all those pent-up feelings out. It's totally normal to feel sad, upset, disappointed, lonely and even downright furious! Talk to someone you trust and bawl your eyes out: whatever it takes to squeeze out all the hurt you've been holding on to.
Definition To exorcise means 'to free a person of evil spirits or malignant influences' Oxford Dictionary
Leave the past behind
Now you need to stop those feelings creeping back in. Start by removing everything that reminds you of your ex. Change your room around so it looks different than it was when you were together. List the reasons you're better off without them and remember to include all their ugly points.
Day by day
The ghost of your relationship will lurk for a while, so it's important to stay strong. No more checking your emails obsessively, stay off their Facebook, and whatever you do, don't be tempted to call or text them. You need to banish them from your thoughts, so no more dreaming about getting back together when you go to bed at night! OK?
Life after your ex
An experience like this will change you, and that's good because you've learnt from it and you're ready to move on as a new, improved person. This is an excellent time to reorganise your life and set some new goals. Stop looking back and start looking forward. Your past passion is dead, let it rest in peace!
Written by Kevin Darling
Last updated June 2007
Further help and advice
- SYBD
- Thesite.org - Accepting its over
- Or call Childline on 0800 1111 (free) or The Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 (cost of a local call) 24/7 to talk about your problems.
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Hannah, 16
i split up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago and it is still so hard. i think about him everyday and im constantly talking about him and obsessing over him. ive recently realised that its doubtful we will ever get back together, so i have been trying so hard to get over him. it still hurts a lot but i think time is healing things. it feels like i wont be ablt to love someone like i loved him and im scared that i wont find anyone as perfect as him. but i cant carry on like this because its stressing me out, so i have to move on! i just cant wait until the day when i dont care about him anymore and have found mr.right xxx
Lillie, 16
I just came out of a messy on and off relationship with a guy I met when I was 11 on my first day at school in September and dated since that Christmas, breaking up routinley. We've done it for good now, and I still love him, but I've moved on. I just had to find a comfortable place.
Ella, 15
i met a lad in 07 we were together for about 6 months and then he broke up with me :( i found it really hard to get over him, like i went out with other lads but still thought of him and stuff, but i didnt really help myself because i used to just sit in my room and listen to our songs and look at our pictures and even sometimes text him even though i kno he wouldnt reply :( then in 08 around the same time as last year we started talking again loads, and got back together for 7 months and broke up and now to be honest i dislike him alot and he never stops talking to me so now he knows how i felt :)
rosie, 15
i have just got out of a 2 year relationship with my boyfriend, and i have got to say it is one of the hardest things to get over. theres not another lad that i want and that could treat me the way he tret me, he was so kind and warm hearted. thats what i loved in him. i will be honest.... whenever you do break up you always know he will still be you're friend and always be there if you need a sholder to cry on or just to chat. but remember.... theres always someone else and that person will be great and lucky to have you. not all lads go for one thing. and if he does, then he isnt worth it. xx
Zoe, 15
Me and my boyfriend broke up about half a year ago and it was so hard to get over him... but trust girls you can find someone else yuo can have mre laughs and love more then you loved in the past x
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