How To Chat Someone Up

Take action

You've spent weeks eyeing them up across the school canteen and have discussed their every move with your mates. But somehow he/she remains a distant figure on your love horizon. So why not take matters into your own hands? Remember - you won't get any action til you take some action.

Factoid Among the most successful chat-up lines in a recent study was: "What's your favourite pizza topping?"
BBC News, April 2006

Repeat after me

Most people would love someone else to make the first move so let that be your mantra on the big day.
Pick a time when they're on their own - then you'll have their undivided attention without their mates sniggering in the background.

Be yourself. Don't jump in with anything too heavy. And don't try any cheesy lines - they're bound to come across as just plain cringey.

'Have you been working out?'

Once you've got them alone and have started working your chat-up charm, you need to make your intentions clear (assuming you've resisted the urge to go straight in for a snog).

Everyone loves flattery, so massage their ego with some heart-felt compliments. Take a deep breath and...ask them.

If they say no

Don't let fear of rejection put you off.

If they knock you back it could be for all kinds of reasons: they're too shy, they're already with someone or maybe their mate fancies you. Whatever the reason, they'll be so flattered that you asked they'll probably let you down very gently.

And when you've done it once, you'll realise that it's not really as big and scary an ordeal as you thought it was. So, what are you waiting for? Get out there!

Written by Kevin Darling

Last updated June 2007

Further help and advice

• BBC Relationships


• Thesite.org - How To Pull


• Channel 4 Teen Life - Chat Up Tips

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