We both liked the same lad, now she's going out with him

Me and my best friend both liked the same lad. He asked me out and I said no because I knew our friendship was not worth sacrificing.

The next day she came to my house only to tell me that she was going out with him.

Should I tell her she was second choice and he's not a nice person for asking us both out. knowing we are best friends?

Help!!!!!

Lottie, 14

Your thoughts:

Lottie, you shouldn't tell your friend that she was the boy's second choice. You've got to ask yourself - what is the point of saying this to her?

From what I can predict, she's not going to be too happy if she found out. Major damage for your friendship may lie ahead if you do that.

I know that you're not feeling very happy, since that you were thinking of your friendship while your friend just jumped for the boy. But, you've still got to be a good friend. The best thing you can do is be supportive and nice. Trust me, this works. I've been in a similar situation as you have.

In the end, chances are your friend and that boy won't last forever. After it's over, you and your friend will be closer than ever, and you can scoff at the boy for being such a pea-brain that he is.

I hope you take my advice!

xoxo

Anna, 14

Next week's question:

I know this sounds really trivial but it's something thats getting me down.

I'm in Year 9 and me and my friends hang round in a HUGE group of both boys and girls.

In our group are then smaller groups who hang out with each other out of school and are a bit closer, but there are no cliques or rivalries or anything like that.

Me and 4 other girls are supposedly 'best friends' but no matter how hard I try, I always feel like an outsider. I'm never involved in private conversations and rarely invited to trips out of school with them. I don't want to fall out with them or I'll have no friends left.

Help!! Thanks :) x

Lizzie, 14