She blamed it all on me
Me and one of my best friends got into trouble at school, and I mean really big trouble.
She blamed it all on me even though it was her idea and I was so close to getting expelled.
I got after school detention every day of the week for 2 weeks and she didn't even got 1 day of detention.
What shall I do? Shall I ditch her and not be her friend any more??
Please help!!!!
Chloe, 12
Slink Trev's mate Claire says:
Hey Chloe,
Your so-called best friend sounds like the worst mate in the world!
You're obviously a loyal, brilliant friend, and such a strong person to have not said anything at all, but if you don't say something soon your friend might betray you again.
I would speak to her and tell her how unfair she has been to let you take the blame for something that was her idea. Ask her why she did it and how she could stand by and just watch while you went through all that grief with your school.
If you're not bothered about her taking some of the blame now, and just don't want it to happen again you should make sure she knows that. If you feel hurt by what she's done, she should know.
If it's important to you that she does admit to your school what has happened, I think you should sit down with a teacher that you can talk to and explain to them what your friend has done. Let them take it from there.
If your friend isn't bothered by her behaviour, I wouldn't stick around and let her ruin your education and mess up your life.
Good luck.
Claire x
Your thoughts:
Chloe, it is really unfair for your friend to blame everything on you and get you into all this trouble and to be honest, I'm surprised you're still friends with her.
You need to tell your teacher you weren't the only one involved. Also, speak to your friend about how you're not happy with how she's treated you.
Leanne, 14
Next week's question:
Hey,
I'm writing this question on my best friend's behalf. My friend is super amazing at art, but in the lesson another girl is always looking at her book and copying all her ideas for designs and backgrounds.
A while ago she told the teacher about it and it developed into a huge argument, and my friend hates arguing. Should she tell the teacher, as it is for our GCSE coursework, or confront the girl?
Or should she leave it and hope the situation improves?
She is quite upset about it, so please help.
Thanks,
Ally x
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