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My friend has recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes.

She can go first for lunch but she has to have someone with her all the time. She usually asks me to go with her. Sometimes when I don't want to do what she always wants to do I feel sort of bad because I don't really wanna be nasty to her and because I feel sorry for her. But I just don't like doing whatever she wants to do. I cant tell her because I don't wanna be nasty.

Please help. Shes my best friend and I really like her as well.

Love, Lana

Louise says:


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Hi Lana
Crikey, you are a tip top matey mate, I think if I had had diabetes at school Rosie would have pretended I had the Black Death and worn a bag over her head! That is how sensitive my mates were... not. I think your friend is probably a bit shocked to find that she is different from you lot and it might take a bit of getting used to.

I think you should tell her the truth in a nice way, say that you will always be there for her but it's not good for her to rely on you because it will make her weak and afraid when you are not there.

What if you got the flu or something? She would have to do stuff on her own so she shouldn't shut herself off from her other mates.

This is you helping her to be independent and letting you be yourself.

Good luck little pally
Louby louxxxxx

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