Drifting apart in a new school
Hey,
I used to be best friends with this girl and when we moved to our grammar school we grew further and further apart.
Now we like never talk. I still want to be her friend and I think she wants to be mine too, but there are other girls that always suck up to her and stuff because she is good fun and quite popular. I think they are getting in the way of our friendship getting along.
I don't know if things will ever be the same. I've tried loads of times for us to be friends again but she doesnt really make the effort. I feel like she is being stubborn to me.
Should I keep trying or should I let it go and just hang out with my new best friends all the time now?????
And also she tells her mum everything and her mum thinks I have like destroyed her childhood so her mum takes it really seriously and hates me now!!!
What do I do?????
Megan, 13
Slink Anna's mate Stephanie says:
Megan,
Life after primary school - or whenever you change school - can be tough. There are lots of new classmates and it's difficult to keep a good balance between new friends and old.
I think it's great that you're trying to keep her in your life. And although right now she seems unresponsive it may be a good idea to talk to her alone, away from both your groups of new friends. Tell her how you feel and see if you two can plan a time to hang out alone like you used to.
Also, try not to blame her new friends for her distance; she may feel the same way about you and your new friends. Maybe she's afraid to talk to you and interrupt your new life?
If she is still not receptive towards continuing your friendship, then perhaps you should give her some time with her new pals, while you also take some time to get to know your friends better.
As for her mum, try not to make any harsh assumptions. If you feel comfortable, you could politely ask her mum why she might dislike you. You never know, you may just have heard something incorrectly, and I'm sure her mum will think it very responsible of you to ask what's wrong.
Things may never be exactly as they were, but that's because both of you are growing up and changing. But hopefully she'll be responsive to your efforts and you can grow together.
Best,
Stephanie x
Your thoughts:
I think that you should text her or ring her when you know she's alone.
Maybe arrange to meet somewhere or something? It might clear the air between the two of you and you could get along like you used to.
If she doesn't want to know, then move on and hang out with your other friends.
But it's worth a try.
Shantelle, 16
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