Told everyone my secret
I told my close friend something that I didn't want anyone to know and I made her swear not to tell anyone.
I heard back that she told 5 of my other friends.
What should I do?
Mary, 16
Slink Trev's mate Claire says:
OMG I can't believe she did that! That is so out of order. One thing you need in a mate is trust.
Did you tell her something that could have worried her? She might have needed to talk to your friends out of concern.
But if you told her something that is nothing to do with your welfare and wellbeing, I would definitely want to confront her.
Ask her why she went against her word and told other people your secret. Give her a chance to explain herself, and if she hasn't got a worthy enough reason, tell her how upset you are that she betrayed your trust. Hopefully she's a good mate really and will apologise.
Try not to hold a grudge, and if she says sorry I would forgive her and move on... otherwise you'll always doubt her loyalty. If she lets you down like this again, perhaps its worth trusting in a better friend.
Claire x
Your thoughts:
Well, the first thing you need to do is talk to your friend. You've only heard these rumours, so make sure this is the truth before you start accusing your friend.
Try and find out why she did it - hopefully she'll be sorry and there may just have been some mis-understanding...but whatever the situation its not worth having a fight over.
Hopefully you and your mate can sort things out. :) x
Good luck, hope my advice can help you.
Abby, 12
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I go to a private school where everyone is either rich or completely gorgeous, and most people are both. Unfortunately, I am neither.
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