My friend's always round my house
My mate is always round my house, but I think that she is only using me to just "doss" about and use it as a place to mess about.
Don't get me wrong, I have a laugh with her, but she keeps bringin loads of her mates round and I hate it because I know that they would rather be somewhere else.
How can I tell my mate to just go away and give me some time on my own? Cause I have a horse to look after and I'm always tired and not feelin well because I have severe asthma and I hate it when she turns up unannounced.
Please help - I don't want to lose my best friend.
Hannah
Slink Aiss' mate Felicia says:
Hi Hannah,
It sounds like your 'friend' needs to wear a massive 'User' sign on her forehead, so everyone can see her sly tactics coming.
Frankly, if she and her other mates exclude you to the point that you think they'd rather not be around you, then there's something wrong.
You shouldn't have people around you unless you want them to be there.
Why can't they find another 'doss' spot in one of their houses?
Tell your mate the truth, you'd rather they didn't come around.
Not because of the asthma or the horses, but because you have the right to make that decision!
Felicia x
Your thoughts:
I had the same problem! She always came around and it was so annoying!
In the end, I just told her to ring me before she came. She got the hint that I didn't want her over all the time, but we didn't split up about it.
If your friend keeps ringing to ask you though, tell her you don't want her coming all the time because of your horse, you're tired and your asthma.
Maybe you could say it's not fair on your parents either, because at the end of the day, it's not.
Good luck x
Lucy, 14
Next week's question:
I haven't been talking to one of my best friends for a couple of weeks now.
I started ignoring her when she started saying horrible stuff about me within my hearing but now I REALLY want to make up with her, but one of my other friends told me she's been saying horrible stuff about me behind my back.
What can I do? I dont want to make friends with her if she's just going to be horrid all the time!
Please help!
Lucy, 13
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