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Ditched by my bestie

A girl, alone and sad

My best friend keeps going off with someone else and it REALLY bugs me.

Today she completely ditched me! I'm fed up of her but I dont want to be a loner :S HELP pleasee (:

Mary, 13

Slink Aiss' mate S-J says:


A girl on her own

Outrageous! I can't believe your friend would do that, and you say you're best friends?! That's not cool at all, Mary.

Now she's clearly upset you, so you should have a chat with her to let her know how you're feeling. That was a mean thing for her to do, but even as her best friend you can't dictate what she does.

You have to be aware that it's good (for both of you) to have other friends too. If you spend all your time with one person then it can be too much and it's easy to get on each other's nerves.

If you become too possessive with your friend then she may not want to be best friends with you anymore - why shouldn't she hang out with other people too?

Try asking her why she did that and telling her how it made you feel. Maybe she didn't realise what she'd done? I'm sure she wouldn't hurt you intentionally.

After talking to her, also try to spend some time with your other friends. That way you get to have loads of fun and, if you guys ever do have a falling out (which I hope you won't), you'll have other friends you can count on too.

S-J
xxx

Your thoughts:


Girlie bonding

Mary, I used to have the same problem.

I had to tell my friend about it and give her an example of what I mean. It took a while for her to catch on, but she did in the end and is a lot more careful about mine and other people's feelings.

Perhaps try inviting her around for a night in, some food, a movie - make the most of it and when the time is right just say to her you miss her and tell her how you feel.

Alice, 15

Next week's question:

Me and my best mate have fallen out cuz of this girl and now im hanging round wif her but i dont wanna.

I want to hang around wif my best mate alone but i don wanna tell her cuz i dont wanna hurt her feelings plus she will b sooo annoying. Wat should i do???

becca, 14


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