Slink Aiss' mate S-J says:

Hey Rachel,

I'm not surprised you're annoyed and it sounds like you're in a bit of a predicament. But let's just think about this for a moment...

Your best mate may not fancy your boyfriend, it could just be that she wants one of her own. Try and be aware when you and your boyfriend are around her that you're not being too couply and/or excluding her.

It's pretty tough when you're single and your friends have boyfriends that are all over them like a rash - yuk!

Also make sure you do lots of fun girly things too so she doesn't feel like you've abandoned her for a boy. Maybe she just feels a bit left out and is missing hanging out with you? You could take that opportunity to have a little chat with her and see if anything is bothering or upsetting her.

I certainly don't think that you should dump him. Even if you did, they might not get together, and either way you wouldn't be a happy bunny, would you?

There's no reason why you shouldn't be able to have a boyfriend and a best friend, you just have to work out how to keep them both happy. :)

S-J
xxx

Next week's question:

I'm going out with a guy who i think is amazing but i am really struggling to hang on to my mates.I feel like they hate me now and I regret not spending time with them. I never seem to be involved in thingz like I used to and i think that my new boyfriend is to blame for it.

What should I do?

Angel, 12

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