Louise says:

Ooooh Sarah

You are lucky because you have got hold of some tip top information really early on in your life and that means you are going to have a much fabber and better time. Honestly.

What I mean is to be a properly loving person you need to practice love all over the place. Not just with one person, even if he is gorgey and fab and the best snogger in the universe and so on. Human beans are made for luuurve of all kinds - boy love, friend love, mum love - and it makes us lonely and sad if we don't have it.

So here is what you do. Tell your boyfriend how you feel first of all listen to him and see if he has any advice. He may suggest something that you hadn't thought of... Explain to him that as a girly type you need to talk a lot to your friends, to share things etc because it smooths down your feathers and makes you feel good. He might not feel like this himself, boys do tend to talk more to their girls than their mates sometimes. But it is how you feel and important.

Also let him feel that he is helping you by joining in with his mates footie matches and so on. Tell him you know he is doing that because he really cares about you. Then you need to spend more time repairing your relationships with your mates.

When you fell out with your best friend is there anything you could apologise to her for? Practice good feelings for other people, notice when they do nice things and their good qualities. Just notice at first. Then join in a bit, perhaps by signing up for things and activities.

Agree to not hang out with your boyfriend during school hours. I know its tempting to just go running for him, but if you don't want to get bored and have nothing to talk about and exchange with your friends you must have a bit of discipline.

Say hello to people and smile. Even people in the street, even children and old people and the postman. Practice being friendly.

I think you are going to be surprised at how easy it is to get back to where you were. And you will never forget this and that is VAIR VAIR good.

Loads a luuuurve and good luck!
Loulouxxxxxx

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