Why do guys never want to be mates, they always want something more?
Okay, you're a girl - so sell yourself as a mate.
I bet you don't like football, you never remember jokes, you're useless at starting fires, you like rubbish music and you completely over-react if someone gives you a dead arm. Am I right? That's why boys don't want to be mates with you.
On the other hand, I bet you have lovely soft hair and a tinkling laugh. Don't try to deny it. So yes, boys are generally mates with other boys, while they prefer to go out with girls.
But if you think lads don't sometimes have genuine girl mates, that's just silly. If a boy thinks a girl is a cool person, he'll happily be her mate, no strings attached. Granted this is easier if she has a massive boil on her face.
If you're ridiculously fit, in an obvious kind of way, then virtually every boy will entertain thoughts of 'something more', which could get irritating. But it can work both ways. Boy-girl friendships are often unequal and it's just as likely the girl has an unrequited crush.
If a 'mate' does fancy you, just make it totally and utterly clear you're not interested. It will stop them getting hurt more in the long-run. Then maybe you can still be friends afterwards.
Or you could just start a massive fire; he'll be well impressed.
DISCLAIMER: Please don't actually start a massive fire.
Slink says:
Slink Ice and Anna have got lots of boy mates who don't want to snog them, so it can totally work. Believe!
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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