What does it mean when every time you text a guy he leaves a 2/3 day gap before replying back?
Wow, you can't take a hint can you?
The most likely reason he's so slack is that he's not bothered about it. He received your text, forgot about it pretty much instantly, then a few days later, out of politeness, sent a token reply while he was bored and sitting on a bus.
You're an after-thought. A mild inconvenience. Probably. But not necessarily.
There are two other key factors: 1) the regularity of your own texting; 2) the nature of his replies. If they seem dismissive, that's bad.
But if they're thoughtful or funny - or contain questions designed to keep the chat going - you may be in luck.
Now I think about it, there are lots of possibilities.
1) He's semi-interested and is just taking it slow while he figures you out.
2) He's a serially lazy texter. Ask his mates about his normal speed.
3) He is crazy about you but has low texting self-esteem; meaning he's so keen to impress you that it takes him at least two days to concoct a message that he deems suitably witty.
4) He only texts you when it suits him (i.e. when he wants to see you).
5) He kind of likes you but he's also text-flirting with various other girls and replies to you all on a rota system.
6) He fancies you but is intentionally appearing aloof and/or mysterious to keep you interested (this is more likely if you leave similar gaps between replying to him).
7) He has huge, furry hands and it takes him hours to write a text (this is more likely if he's a bear).
8) He's tight and/or skint and only wants to use his credit when absolutely necessary.
9) He's slightly deranged and regularly crawls into ditches and remains there for 2/3 days.
FYI, from that list, number 6 is most likely. Lots of lads like to "play it cool" - because it often works.
So, in summary, I've probably just confused you even more. Sorry. Maybe you should call and ask him?
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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