When will my boyfriend tell me he loves me? I don't want to say it first.
Uh-oh, you said the 'L' word.
The L word is seldom part of a boy's vocabulary. If he does love you, he'll almost certainly tell no one - not even his best mate. It's a difficult word to bring up - more so if you're a boy because, frankly, it sounds a bit wet. We can love football teams, bands, pizza toppings, even pets. But when it comes to other humans, the L word makes us shy. You'd struggle to get a boy to admit he even loves his own mum in public.
This doesn't mean your boyf isn't head-over-heels in love with you. He just might not have worked it out yet, especially if he hasn't been in love before. There are plenty of L word euphemisms you could use to coax it out, like 'caring about' and 'really really liking'. If he doesn't bite, maybe he just needs more time. You can't force it out of him. If he says it without meaning it (and some boys do), a world of trouble awaits.
Anyway, why does he have to say it before you? It's not one of those boy things, like holding open doors or offering your jacket on a windy night. Often the girl brings it up first, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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