How can you get a boy to notice you without making them freak out?
Right, hold on there, don't show him your techno dance just yet. There may be a better way.
Boys don't get freaked out that easily. Not unless you're mental, obsessive or really hairy like a lion. If he already thinks you're hot, the rest will be a breeze. Just wink at him or buy him an ice cream or something. He won't need inviting twice. But if you feel invisible in his presence, there are other ways to charm him.
Sadly there's no magic formula to make you suddenly appear, like a fit genie. It may take time and effort. First up you need to devise ways of spending time with him. Find out what he's into and, if you've got stuff in common, try to start a chat about it. But be careful not to take it too far. If you discover he's an Arsenal fan, don't rush out to buy a season ticket and a Thierry Henry mask. That will just scare him. In fact, don't wear any kind of mask, ever. Masks are scary.
You can get away with little signs of affection, though. Let him know you're keen, but not too keen. Low-key flirting, nonchalant texting, incidental DVD lending - it won't harm your chances. But ideally you should try to make him see your good points, rather than pandering to his. The only way of doing that is by getting to know him.
Or, if all else fails, show him your baps.
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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