What does it mean if a lad always asks you round to his house (with other mates) but then talks about other girls?
What have you been doing?
Swapping football stickers with him? Burping the alphabet? Setting fire to your farts?
Whatever you've done, he obviously admires you for it. But probably not in the way you want. (I'm guessing you fancy him, or you wouldn't be asking, right?)
It sounds like this lad rates you - but he thinks you're a boy. Or at least, he treats you like one. And this means he's not expecting to get off with you any time soon.
It also explains why he talks about other girls. He probably has no idea it's making you feel bad. He's just doing whatever he'd normally do when his mates come over.
But hope is not lost. Just because he sees you as 'one of the lads' doesn't mean it's not too late to transform your image. Or rather, to transform his image of you.
In short, you need to make him see you as a girl. This shouldn't be too hard if, as I'm assuming, you are a girl.
The best option would be to ask him out so that it's just the two of you. This may sound forward but the genius of it is that because you're 'mates' you can do it without arousing suspicion.
There's another possibility too. Maybe you didn't set fire to your farts and he doesn't see you as a lad. It could just be that he's too scared to ask you out on a one-to-one basis, so he does it in a group situation instead, as an excuse to get closer to you.
So, which is it? Only you know how you've been behaving. Did you light bum gas in his presence? If so, be careful, because it's potentially catastrophic.
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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