He's still friends with his ex, should I be worried?
Exes are like mosquitoes - the world would be a better place for everyone if they simply didn't exist.
They offer nothing, except a lingering sense of uncertainty about your other half's past. Did his former flings have better legs, funnier jokes, more interesting pets...? It's not nice to ponder. and the older the boy, the longer the trail of conquests piling up behind him. It's his 'baggage' - a horrible word when not used in the context of holidays. If you know the ex, it's even worse. And if she's still part of your lad's life, it's natural to be a bit jealous. But don't start cutting off his benefits just yet.
If he's secretly carrying on a friendship with his ex, it sounds iffy. But, if he's completely open about it, there's most likely nothing going on. The 'let's just be friends' chat is a classic boy cop-out. but not always. Splitting up with someone you like is rubbish - so if you really can stay in touch it's a big bonus. Exes that stay mates should be applauded for their maturity, rather than eyed with suspicion.
If his ex is still single it might be worth checking out her motives (preferably without threatening her, Vicky Pollard-style). If they have a genuine platonic friendship it's probably the best thing of all, because it means she's totally out of his system.
It's the girl he broods over silently with the cracking pins and the endangered pet iguana you should worry about...
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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