Why do boys always make plans and then forget them?
"I forgot."
It's the greatest, most versatile excuse in the world.
You can use it in so many situations: I forgot my homework, I forgot it was your birthday, I forgot you told me not to eat those crisps, I forgot cats can't speak. And the brilliance of "I forgot" is that no one can ever disprove it.
That's not to say this boy you speak of is lying. Maybe he really is an absent-minded chap. Is he, for example, the kind of lad who never has a pen? Does he regularly turn up for school still in his pyjamas?
If not, he might be "forgetting" when it suits him. This is when "I forgot to come to your party" can be translated as "I didn't want to go to your party".
Also, remember that when "making plans" with a boy, only a definite "yes" means the plan is made. "Sounds good", "could be good" or even a yes followed by a condition, like "yeah, probably" or "yeah, I'll defo try and make that"... none of these should be assumed to mean "yes".
This isn't just a boy thing. The world is full of people who are flakier than a bowl of Frosties. It's not really about forgetfulness, it's about reliability.
And if a boy regularly "forgets" your "plans" then maybe you should ask him what's occurring. Or spy on him. Yeah, then you'll find out if he's been eating your crisps or chatting up your cat or... sorry, I'm getting carried away here, what was the question again?
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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