What does it mean when a boy flirts with you one minute and then hardly talks to you the next?
There are three possible explanations: the good, the bad and the ugly.
First, the bad. Some boys are natural flirts, which means they'll pretty much flirt with anyone (except their Nan). For him the flirting is just a bit of fun, not the prelude to a red-hot romance. The fact he ignores you half the time isn't a great sign and suggests he's just found someone better to flirt with.
But cheer up, here's the good. The thing about these natural flirts is that there aren't too many of them knocking around school. They're far outnumbered by awkward, greasy-faced boys who flirt with all the finesse of a tractor.
This boy will flirt because he likes you, but it's a big effort. If he's not flirty all the time, it's because your hotness scares him and makes him shy. He might even think it's you ignoring him, bless him.
It could also depend on who's around; he could be embarrassed to flirt with you in front of his mates, or his ex, or his science teacher.
Or maybe he's playing with your head on purpose, which would be a promising sign even if it's annoying. He's only doing it because he's clever (no, really) and knows it will make you want him more. Blank him once in a while, if that's what he's doing to you. If he's keen, you're nonchalance won't go unnoticed.
Finally, the ugly explanation. This is simple and means he doesn't fancy you and he spoke to you once for a bet. If that's the case, you're better off without the loser, right?
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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