Do lads prefer to be called hot, handsome, or cute?
You've come to the right place for this query because, as you might imagine, I'm regularly described as all three. I've also been labelled 'Adonis-like', 'majestic' and 'a liar'.
Ok, let's consider the connotations. Handsome is fine, but it's probably the word your Nan would use to describe you. (Rule number one of pulling boys: never do anything that makes him think of his Nan.) Handsome also sounds like someone you might appreciate from a distance, like an attractive married teacher. Or a horse. It's an acknowledgement of beauty, rather than a declared interest.
Cute can work both ways. You have to be careful how you use it. For example rabbits are cute, but you wouldn't want to snog one. Slightly idiotic behaviour can also be deemed cute. It borders on the patronising. But it can also be great to be called cute because, at its best, it indicates someone thinks you're fit and a nice person.
Hot is different. It's purely looks-based. If you think someone's hot, it's pretty much guaranteed that you wouldn't mind sticking your tongue down their throat. This is the exact reaction boys want. So it's never a bad thing to be called hot, unless you have a fever or are actually on fire. In which case, you'd probably prefer to be showered with water than compliments.
So in summary: number one is hot. It's a lad's best indicator he might get some action and it's something his Nan would never say, unless she was referring to the central heating.
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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