He's rubbish at kissing. How can I tell him?
We've all been there. He's cute, he wears nice shoes and he smells lovely, but kissing him is like trying to resuscitate a dying guppy fish.
Well, I haven't been there exactly, but I catch your drift. First off, don't tell him he snogs like a fish. That would make him cry. But with a bit of tact you'll soon be able to lick him into shape.
Kissing is a unique thing in that no one ever shows us how to do it. Riding a bike, boiling an egg, even going to the lav - somewhere along the line, someone tells us how it's done. But no teacher or mum will ever demonstrate how to deliver a top-notch snog. I hope.
Instead we have to rely on watching TV actors lunging in for perfectly-timed clinches. But the real action is hidden, and it's tough to work out what goes on in that squelchy abyss where two mouths collide. So we have to guess.
Most people are a bit rubbish at kissing at first. My advice is this: manoeuvre your tongue subtly while moving your lips up and down, occasionally pursing them. In other words, talk to him.
The easiest way would be to ask how he likes to be kissed. Once he's muddled his way through a reply he'll probably ask you the same. That's your cue to indirectly tell him where he's been going wrong, without having to label him a washing machine.
Encourage him to experiment, then give some obvious seal of approval whenever he does something you do like. He'll soon learn, and if he doesn't, there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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