Why won't my boyfriend argue with me? He just walks away and refuses to talk about it.
Boys are reasonable people and we believe that arguing doesn't solve problems. We prefer arm-wrestling.
Girls - annoyingly - would never agree to settle a dispute in this way because they are rubbish at it and know they will lose. Boys don't like arguing for similar reasons.
Boys have little interest in rowing with their girlfriends. We feel we have nothing to gain and would prefer to spend the time doing something more fun.
I've had lots of arguments with chicks (and I've been right pretty much every time). But it's normally girls who initiate arguments and they are also better at it. This means we'll invariably end up being forced to apologise for something.
Often we simply can't relate to the reasons you're upset. Maybe we didn't text and you cried for three days. But we didn't know that; we were at home playing Fifa Soccer thinking everything was hunky dory.
Getting dragged into an argument about something you don't understand is fraught with danger. It's like taking on Darth Vader without a light sabre, or going to Glastonbury without wellies.
There could be a simpler reason he doesn't want to argue: he knows he's been naughty and is scared of an ear-bashing. Despite our tough-guy image (see photo above for example), most boys avoid confrontation. We don't like talking about problems, we'd much rather forget them.
So that's the way it is. If you've got a problem with it, then hell - let's arm-wrestle.
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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