What do boys mean when they say they're "playing the field"?
I believe the expression "playing the field" comes from horses.
I don't mean it was invented by horses; that's not what they do. But rather, horse racing.
Specifically, it's when you bet on more than one horse to win a single race. So you've got more chance of winning the race, but less chance of winning loads of cash. You get me?
And this translates quite well to the way certain boys use it, they think that getting involved with lots of girls might up the chances that one will work out in the end. Unfortunately many boys have yet to realise that this basically makes you look like a player and sends most nice girls galloping for the hills.
Horse fanciers that "play the field" get a lot of easy wins, but they'll never hit the jackpot and find 'the one' - that special horse who will always win and whose mane they can stroke and kiss and cuddle forever.
And it's the same with boys. If he's always got a different show pony on his arm, he'll never have a proper girlfriend. So most lads that play the field will eventually grow out of it.
So if you know a boy is playing the field, it's probably best to saddle up your camel and ride away laughing in the opposite direction.
Please remember: Kev is not an expert, he is just a boy and sometimes quite a silly boy. The main thing to remember when it comes to lads and relationships is to expect respect as the absolute minimum. Find out more about a Women's Aid campaign of the same name.
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