'Pregnancy almost ruined my Olympic dream'
She walked towards the abortion clinic consumed by confusion and sorrow. And then she sobbed. In those agonised steps towards the entrance, she had a change of heart. Tasha Danvers was going to be a mum. It was, she says, an "emotional nightmare".
"I could almost touch my dream of becoming an Olympic medallist," says the 36-year-old former athlete, speaking as part of a BBC Radio 5 live programme on sportswomen and motherhood.
"How far do governing bodies feel they should support female athletes who decide to have children while still active competitively? Most working women can expect some kind of maternity rights, including paid leave and the right to return to work. But to what extent does that apply to sportswomen, in an era when many are professional, and rely on Lottery funding?"
"But I couldn't [go through with the termination] and I just broke down crying because that meant I was giving up on my dream."
The Londoner was 27 at the time and in her sporting prime, with the 2004 Athens Olympics just months away. Her husband and coach Darrell Smith felt, in Danvers's words, like a buffoon.
Pregnant athletes have competed at the Olympics, of course. Only last year,
Nur Suryani Mohamed Taibi was eight months pregnant
when she became the first woman to represent Malaysia in Olympic shooting.
Taking aim while seated is one thing. Negotiating the 400m hurdles, with an ever-growing bump, is another.
"When you're married and getting on with life, it's no big deal, but as a professional athlete this is not done. You just don't get pregnant during an Olympic year," says Danvers.
"I don't think I felt much excitement. On the one hand, you want to carry on with your dream but, on the other, you're a married woman and, at the end of the day, the only thing that's going to last is life.
Who is Tasha Danvers?
19 September 1977
100m hurdles, 400m hurdles
- Represented Great Britain at the
- Finished eighth in the 400m hurdles at the
Sydney Olympic Games
- Won 400m hurdles at the
Summer Universiade event in Beijing
- Finished seventh in the 400m hurdles at the Manchester Commonwealth Games in
Also finished seventh in the 400m hurdles final at theEuropean Championships in Munich
- Won 400m hurdles silver medal at the
Commonwealth Games in Melbourne and ended season ranked sixth in the world
- Finished second in the 400m hurdles at the
- Won bronze medal in the 400m hurdles at the
Beijing Olympic Games
- Inducted into the London Youth Games Hall of Fame in
- Retired because of a series of injury problems in June
"I knew that if I went through with the abortion I wouldn't recover well emotionally and, as an athlete, your whole self needs to be in good shape; emotionally, physically and mentally.
"If I was ruined emotionally, I probably wouldn't perform well anyway. As hard as it was, I had to do what felt right for me."
Danvers watched the Olympic opening ceremony from home while her husband attended the glitzy gala in the Greek capital. Once more, she cried.
"My husband continued with his dream of going to the Olympics as a coach and I couldn't watch any more after that," she admits.
But there was to be life after motherhood as Danvers went on to become one of a number of athletes to prove that becoming a mum need not be an obstacle to sporting success.
had won 10,000m gold at the 1991 World Championships after giving birth to her first child Eilish, while back in 1948
a mother of two, won four gold medals for the Netherlands at the London Olympics.
Seven months after the birth of her son Jaden, Danvers finished a confidence-boosting fifth in her first competitive race. A silver at the 2006 Commonwealth Games followed and reaching the final of the World Championships in Osaka a year later lent credence to her belief she could compete with the elite at the 2008 Beijing Olympics.
And so, at the age of 30, the Los Angeles-based athlete produced the fastest run of her life in the Chinese capital to
win bronze in 53.84 seconds,
leaping in "complete and utter joy" after seeing her name below only Jamaican Melanie Walker and American Sheena Tosta on the scoreboard.
But all was not rosy. Danvers and her American husband were divorcing, and although her passion for the sport was "dying out", she returned to England with London 2012 in her sights.
She set up base in Birmingham to be closer to her family, but the daily grind of combining the school run with a commute to London for training took its toll.
Danvers won bronze at the Beijing Olympics despite not even winning the British trials
"At Christmas we went back to the US to visit Jaden's family and he said 'I want to stay in LA'," recalls Danvers. "Then I knew it was time for him to go back to the US and I definitely underestimated how that would make me feel. That was the beginning of a major downward spiral."
The image of her five-year-old son waving goodbye from the back of a taxi as he left for California still haunts Danvers.
Perhaps understandably, depression took hold and on Thursday, 23 June 2011, heartbroken, blighted by injuries and dependant on anti-depressants, she tried to kill herself.
Danvers, who on
describes herself as complex, recalls how darkness engulfed her as she drove home from training.
"All of a sudden, I was crying my eyes out. I didn't know why I was crying," she says.
"I thought, 'If I can't even have a good day without going crazy at some point, I just don't want to do it any more'.
Famous sporting mums
- Paula Radcliffe
won the 2007 New York marathon 10 months after giving birth to daughter Isla
- Kim Clijsters
triumphed at tennis' US Open in 2009 to become only the third mother to win a Grand Slam
- Catriona Matthew
was golf's Open champion in 2009 at the age of 40, 11 weeks after giving birth to youngest daughter Sophie
- Liz McColgan
returned to athletics after giving birth to her first child, Eilish, and won 10,000m gold at the 1991 World Championships
- Thirty-year-old mother of two
won gold in the 100m, 200m, 4x100m relay and 80m hurdles at the 1948 Olympics in London
"I had been prescribed sleeping tablets because I had insomnia and I took every one I could find. I tried to communicate with my boyfriend at the time. He noticed something was wrong, and the next thing I knew the ambulance was there and I woke up in hospital.
"If I had Jaden they probably would have taken him but, probably, if I had Jaden I wouldn't have been there in the first place."
Danvers returned to Los Angeles to be with her son, embarking on what she calls the beginning of the rest of her life, and within eight months she was no longer taking anti-depressants.
There would be no London 2012 for Danvers -
she retired in June
of that year because of injuries.
And she still talks of life being not "exactly how I want it to be", but the melancholy is pushed aside when, with the interview nearing its conclusion, her son awakes from his slumber and whispers to her a dozy "I love you".
"Sometimes I can't believe he's actually mine," is Danvers's response, the Olympian-turned-trainer sounding as happy as she says she is.
"It's hard to be a mother. Full stop. If you're a working mum, it's that much harder, and if you're a professional athlete and a mum you have the added pressure of being away for weeks and months. It's very difficult, not just for you but for your child, who also has to sacrifice time with you.
"I think we did a good thing. I'm proud of him. He wants to be a runner, by the way. I've told him we need to talk about that one."