Q: He won’t move on

Hi Slink! I have a friend who really likes this girl (when I say really i'm putting it VERY LIGHTLY!) anywho he is like obsessed with her and won't stop liking her.

He has asked her out three times and every time she's said no. He has been my friend for ages and Im slightly scared for him 'cause i don't want him to keep getting hurt.

The thing is I have been out with him twice b4 and decided we were better as friends, so i don't know if this is just a friends instinct or i'm being slightly obsessive about it. Help and advice plz!!!

Love, Hana

A: Slink's mate Nigel says:

Ya know, if I could answer this question in the medium of mime I would be making a 'move on' gesture like a policeman at the scene of an accident.

And I have sympathy! Everyone reading this has been in the same situation of unrequited crushdom. And it's tough. Sometimes school is cool, same classes, same teachers, same routine. But the problem is now and then we can get a bit of tunnel vision. It gets claustrophobic.

We forget there are other things out there. And other people. It sounds like your friend has got sucked into the moment and his massive crush.

But it's up to you to remind him that a new school year will come and with that new classmates or maybe even a glamorous transfer from another school! But remember everybody has to make their own mistakes.

You can be there for your friend but you can't force them to act or feel a certain way. Just be ready to bite your lip a lot until he gets it out of his system.

Best of luck, Nigel