Q: I want to date my friend –…

I really like one of my best mates. She is fantastic in every way.

I took her to the cinema a week back and asked her if she would go out with me. She told me that it wasn't the right time. She said she doesn't want to go there because I'm such a good friend to her and she doesn't want to lose me. I'm so confused. I don't know whether I should wait and see if she changes her mind or just move on. I really like her but I’m torn.

Craig, 15

A: Slink Trev's mate Claire sayeth:

You sound so nice! Your mate is bobbins for turning you down.

I don’t want to sound harsh, but if she really fancied you, she wouldn’t have said no. She may have said "not right now" to take the sting off, but I really wouldn’t hold your breath.

She obviously values you as a friend, and sees your friendship as a long-term thing, so take some comfort in that.

Be there for her as a friend, as you don’t want her to think you only hang around her because you want to snog her face off.

I think you should try and move on, and carry on being her mate. Don’t wait for her to change her mind.

At the moment you’re far too available – I bet she would only start fancying you as soon as she thought you weren't interested anymore. So you never know, your luck may change!

And I hope she is as nice to you as you are to her.

Love Cx