If it's happening to you Davina James-Hanman Remember that you're not alone. There are thousands and thousands of women who have been through similar experiences to yours. And there are many people who care and who want to help .

What can I do?

Have a look at the links below to find out more:

• Don't blame yourself
• Get help
• Talk to someone
• Make a crisis plan

Your options

The information below explains your options if you're in an abusive relationship. Some people may have told you to just leave, but this may not be right for you at the moment. Reading this may help you decide what would best suit your particular situation.

Staying with your partner

• How can I increase my safety if I stay?
• What other things can I do to protect myself?
• Should I have conditions for staying?

Leaving temporarily

• Where can I go and what should I take?
• What will happen to my home?
• How can I protect myself and my children?
• Should I have some conditions for returning?

Staying without your partner

• How can I get my partner out of the property?
• How can I protect myself and my children?

Leaving permanently

• Where can I go, and how can I stay safe?
• What about money?
• Is there life after abuse - how do I start all over again?

For further advice and information on the specific issues affecting Asian women see the BBC Asian Network website.

If you're a young adult in an abusive relationship have a look at The Surgery.

Please note: Why this site refers mainly to women

This article was last reviewed by Catherine Orr Deas in December 2005.
First published in February 2003.