Sudden and unexpected death In cases of sudden death, family and friends are often left extremely shocked, with no opportunity to say goodbye - or even complete unfinished emotional business. Dr Ann Dent looks at these particularly emotive deaths and the support networks in place to help.

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Murder Suicide

Accidents Terrorist attacks

Murders can be particularly difficult deaths to acknowledge and accept. Suddenly, nothing can be taken for granted, and you're likely to feel extremely shocked, vulnerable, unprepared and guilty. Because it's so violent, murder is probably the worst sort of death to endure - especially in the case of a child. Feelings include powerlessness and meaninglessness, anger and injustice.

The judicial system will be involved, which makes the situation more difficult. The coroner will decide when the body of the deceased is released for burial or cremation. This may take several weeks, or even months, which inevitably is a very stressful time for relatives.

The media can intrude and behave inconsiderately, often reporting inaccurately. Those closest to the victim bear the brunt of the misfortune, especially when the murder remains unsolved, so it's advisable to seek outside help. For support, contact:

Cruse Bereavement Care
Tel: 020 8939 9530
Website: www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk

Support After Murder or Manslaughter (SAMM)
Website: www.samm.org.uk
This organisation offers support to families and has assisted the Home Office in developing a homicide information pack.

Parents of Murdered Children
Website: www.pomc.com
Offers online support, group meetings, education and legal information.

Suicide can cause great guilt

Suicide can cause great guilt and remorse, especially if the dead person's intentions were known to you and you feel inadequate efforts were made to prevent it.

It's common to experience a sense of isolation, stigma and humiliation. You may ask yourself what people must think of you and wonder how you'll face them again. Because many people find it awkward to talk about suicide, you may find it difficult to find someone to confide in or talk to. For outside help, contact:

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS)
Tel: 01482 210287
Website: www.uk-sobs.org.uk
This organisation offers support to those who've experienced suicide and has an informative leaflet for survivors.

Road accidents are always totally unexpected and sadly on the rise. In the case of other accidents, such as a drowning, natural disaster or a plane crash, the body isn't always recoverable, adding to the torment of family and friends. For support contact:

Brake Care
Website: www.brake.org.uk

Victim Support
Tel: 0845 303 0900
Website: www.victimsupport.com
This organisation offers a network of experienced volunteers in most parts of the UK to help those bereaved on the road.

Drowning Support Network
Website: health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DrowningSupportNetwork
Support for those who've lost loved ones by drowning or in other aquatic accidents.

Anyone exposed to terrorist attacks such as the London bombings may feel emotional effects. These responses are normal and are the mind’s way of trying to make sense and come to terms with what has happened.

7th July Assistance Centre
Helpline: 0845 054 7444
Website: www.7julyassistance.org.uk
If you feel affected in any way by the 7th July attacks you can find information, emotional support and practical advice by calling the 24-hour helpline - or if you’d prefer to talk with someone face-to-face, there is a centre in London.