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Rape is the crime of someone forcing someone else to have sex. Get clued-up on rape here, including the facts, the myths and what to do if you've been raped...

Rape

Rape is forcing someone to have sex, without their consent. It is terrible, terrifying and devastating for the survivor. It is the crime women fear most.

First, the myths. All total 100% bull. Zero tolerance on this sort of rubbish:

• Women ask for it when they go out in short skirts/tight tops. They make it happen.
• Men can't help themselves. They get so fired up, it's natural.
• Girls say no when they mean yes. It's part of the game.
• You can't be raped by your boyfriend. It's your duty to sleep with him.

Now for the facts

• About 5% of women are raped at some point in their life.
• It's not just the girls. About one in ten rape victims is a man.
• Only 17% of rapes are performed by strangers. We are much more likely to be raped by someone we know.
• Only 20% of rapes are reported to the police.

How can I stop it happening to me?

Women aged 16-24 are especially vulnerable. We may be more likely to be out alone. We may not feel confident enough to say "No" or fight back.
Here's our checklist:

• Alcohol. Keep your drinking safe. How can we watch our backs when we're off our heads?
• Make sure someone knows who you are with and where you are going.
• Avoid travelling alone, but don't accept lifts from strangers.
• Trust your instincts. If you feel uneasy - get out. No apologies, no backwards glances.

I have been raped. What should I do?

You've been through a terrible ordeal so thinking straight might be impossible. But you really must consider reporting your rape. This is for your own safety and well-being and that of others.

Being silent only helps your attacker. Telling someone means you can get the physical checks and support you need.

Who should I tell?

First, tell a trusted friend and preferably an adult.

Then either call the police and visit your GP or local sexual health centre ASAP. They will advise what to do and won't tell anyone (including the police) unless you say so.

Why the rush?

The sooner we are checked over after a rape, the quicker we can be sure we're physically OK, and the more likely the police are to find the forensic evidence they need to secure a conviction.

There are many experts who can help you make sense of what happened and look after you while you do. You may never forget being raped, but you can move on. Be strong. You'll come through this. One step at a time.