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To exorcise means 'to free a person of evil spirits or malignant influences'
After a break-up you need to get your ex out of your system and concentrate on moving on. Get advice here on how to do exactly that right here...
When you can't get your ex out of your head it's all too easy to remain possessed by past passions. The only way to lay old ghosts to rest is to exorcise your ex!
Before you can move on, you need to let all those pent-up feelings out. It's totally normal to feel sad, upset, disappointed, lonely and even downright furious!
Talk to someone you trust and bawl your eyes out: whatever it takes to squeeze out all the hurt you've been holding on to.
Now you need to stop those feelings creeping back in. Start by removing everything that reminds you of your ex. Change your room around so it looks different than it was when you were together.
List the reasons you're better off without them and remember to include all their ugly points.
The ghost of your relationship will lurk for a while, so it's important to stay strong. No more checking your emails obsessively, stay off their Facebook, and whatever you do, don't be tempted to call or text them.
You need to banish them from your thoughts, so no more dreaming about getting back together when you go to bed at night! OK?
An experience like this will change you, and that's good because you've learnt from it and you're ready to move on as a new, improved person.
This is an excellent time to reorganise your life and set some new goals. Stop looking back and start looking forward.
Your past passion is dead, let it rest in peace!
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kaykay, 03/09/2010 Complain about this commentThis will hopefully help. I have been trying to get over someone for ages now, I became so down, I couldnt let go of the pictures and tet to remind me of him etc. I told myself that I need to be strong and I should stop the tears and forget but it was so hard. So now I hesitantly got rid of everything that reminded me of him, I allowed my tears. Thank you for helping me with this!
AmberBabyy, 26/07/2010 Complain about this commentthis is amazing. I'm going through such a hard time at the moment. My boyfriend well ex has just finished with me and hes my first proper boyfriend! But in time I hope i will stop hurting, thankyou so much xx
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