Helping you get through life
Death is a part of life but losing someone close to us is devastating. Get clued up on what grief actually is and how to cope to with it.
Living and dying are part of our life cycle, but that doesn't make dealing with death, or fear of death any easier. The reality is that death is the only certainty in life, so it's good to try and get your head around it.
Grief is the word for the emotions you have when someone you care about dies. It's different for everyone but common feelings include:
All of these are normal feelings - most of them are unavoidable. Go easy on yourself and let yourself grieve.
You'll never forget the person who has died. You might always feel sad when you think of them. But as time goes on you may have memories that make you happy. Things will definitely get easier.
The first year is the hardest for most of us, but there's no right or wrong length of time to grieve. You may feel better quickly - if this is the case, it doesn't mean you loved them any less. You shouldn't feel guilty for continuing to live your life.
Getting over grief might seem impossible at first, but it just takes time. It's not easy, but people do cope with grief and become happy again once they've worked through it.
If you feel you're stuck grieving longer than you'd like to be - or that it's taking over your life - get some support.
Talking about your feelings and the person you've lost is usually a big help. Many people find counselling helps too. Have a look at the related links on the side of this page.
Do you worry about what will happen when you die? Or that you will feel pain. These fears are very common.
When we die, we first slip into unconsciousness. This means we aren't aware of anything after this point. Slipping into unconsciousness is like going to sleep - this can make it feel a little less scary.
The time after we die will be a period of grief for our loved ones. Whether we think we're going to heaven or anywhere else or not, the most important thing is to not worry about dying too much - worrying while we are alive is a waste of life. Fully appreciate every moment that you are living now, and you can appreciate the sheer awesomeness of being alive!
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