Paul Spector is a husband and a father but it is his actions that come to define him.
Jamie Dornan plays Paul Spector
Paul Spector is identified to the audience as the killer from the very start. As such he hides in plain sight - a father, husband and professional man - a bereavement counsellor.
On the surface at least he is socially competent, persuasive and manipulative. His family provides him with the outward appearance of normality but since he confessed, falsely, to an affair with the young babysitter, that mask of normality has been shattered.
It is the activities that he carries out in the shadows that reveal Spector’s true character - he is a sadistic sexually-motivated killer. By creating a fantasy and putting it into action he believes he creates his own highly controlled existential reality. But by the end of series one that sense of control looks more and more an illusion.
He is loved by his children, particularly his daughter Olivia.