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Patrick Kielty sits in

Patrick Kielty begins a six show stint sitting in for Mr Evans. With news, travel, and marvellous music that includes the listener-nominated Power Play track to wake the nation, and two linked Kielty's Crackers.

All this week, as part of Radio 2's Living Well Alone season, our sports presenter Caroline Baker will be exploring the successes and achievements of solo sportsmen and sportswomen.

We find out how they combat loneliness on their sporting journeys. Today's guest, Mike Perham, was the youngest Briton to sail around the world and is now on a challenge to be the first person to circumnavigate the world by land, sea and air.

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Mon 21 Oct 2013 06:30

Pause for Thought

Pause for Thought

With Father Brian D'Arcy, a Catholic Passionist priest.

This is Faith in the World week on Radio 2. This year’s theme is Living Alone Well. As an ageing celibate bachelor I consider myself an expert on how to be happy in my own company.

There are 7.5 million adults living alone in Britain today, an increase of one million in ten years. 2.5 million are middle-aged and more men than women have no partners.

Many people have to live alone others do so by choice, as I do. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy or natural. I believe I’d be a better person and a better priest if I were married.

I also admit there are times when I like to be left alone – I’ve learned to cope not just with being alone but also with loneliness. The philosopher Blaise Pascal had a point when he said: “All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.”

 As a believer I’m never totally alone yet I constantly push myself to learn to live alone well; it doesn’t happen automatically. Perhaps that’s why so many younger people use face-book and twitter now. It’s fascinating to communicate with people across the world. Yet we all know that social networking is no substitute for genuine friendships. It’s hard to hug a phone.

Allow me share a few simple tips which help me through loneliness.

No matter how lonely you feel, work hard at developing friendships with sincere companions. Good friends make us less self-centred.

Count your blessings daily. Look back on the events, people, and feelings you had during the day and concentrate on what inspired you.

Be aware of the kindness shown to you and the opportunities you had to help others; that’s where you’ll find fulfilment.

Lastly, remember that there are some events in life we have to experience for ourselves. To paraphrase Orson Welles – we’re born alone, we die on our own. But love and friendships convince us that we’re not alone.
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